why do i feel this way? details inside?!
Question: Why do i feel this way? details inside?
Alittle about me, I have dirty blonde hair blue eyes about 6.1 im a very nice / hard working guy i am only 20 years of age i hold a job and paid off car. growing up i was the out cast of family of 10 all from the same parents, and i never had real friends or GF's etc. im a super fun guy to be around i make every one smile and laugh and just try to cheer people up when they are down. (at work) im a nerd i love games and anime but in the same time i do watch almost every kind of movies action comedy romance etc. im sensitve i dont drink or smoke or ever will nor with sex before getting married, you can call me old fashion to a degree.
but as nice and hard working that (every one) keeps telling me why do i stay away from people when im off work? i dont go out and do much i hardly call / text anyone besides for this girl i like. about the girl we both know we like each other but shes letting religion get in the way and that just makes me down cause im willing to go to her church if she went to mine.
sorry back to topic but mostly i try to think of ways to put myself down because being sad and depressed is the only REAL feeling i know,
why do i feel alone? ive felt alone my whole life and im just not sure what to do or why i feel this way.
really sorry if it got confusing or to detailed etc. and thanks so much for the replys
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you think negatively of yourself and you have no confidence even though you can work hard. But in reality, you think don't have the confidence because you don't want someone near you to be hurt and you're doing it by isolating yourself out of the crowd. If you have some kind of past or whatever that makes you down. That's probably the reason that you've become worried of others rather than yourself. You're hiding that kind of personality by doing the opposite as a funny guy or even a cheerful hardworking man. All I can say is you have to find yourself first if you want someone to be there, but its not necessarily the first thing to do. Don't try to avoid others and let them comfort you or be there for you by telling them what kind of life you're leading on the other side of your personality.
good luck
You feel alone because you don't really have any friends and this girl is kinda rejecting you.
I'd feel alone too.
I wish I had words of wisdom for you, but I don't.
Hang in there.
You feel alone because you are alone.
Get a life.
Awww, you are one of those sweet types of guys who most people in the world don't quite understand! You call yourself a "nerd". Did you know that there is an actual medical term for nerds? I am going to suggest that maybe you might have a mild form of this, which is NOT A BAD THING, in fact, I see it as a VERY GOOD THING. My husband has it. And it helps to understand it so you can realize why you feel lonely and what to do about it. These people are usually very smart and very kind. However, usually, unless they are taught very strictly to have good hygiene, (bathing every day, brushing teeth twice a day, combing their hair, wearing clean clothes), they don't care that much about personal hygiene or wearing fashionable clothes. So people around them don't understand them, because most people care more about wearing cool clothes than they do about being kind. So then, these people are left out and feel lonely their whole life. Most of them love anime and video games, like my 16 year old son, who has this syndrome. It is called Aspergers Syndrome. My husband and son are truly great, wonderful guys. The most difficult parts of life for someone with Aspergers Syndrome are loneliness and communicating about feelings. But Asperger people are normal and have all the same feelings as anyone else, they just have to learn how to do some things a little differently than comes natural for them. They have so much goodness in them, they are an example to the rest of us for how we really should think of each other. Unfortunately, they get hurt a lot because they are picked on by others and so they feel bad and sad most of the time. Counseling can help a lot, to figure out how to change the thoughts you have of, like you said, putting yourself down. You're great. Hang in there and find a counselor to help you with this little issue.