Are therapists judgmental?!
Question: Are therapists judgmental?
Anyway ive had a few counseling sessions which I didn't find that helpful for some reason, i just feel really vulnerable when i open up and i don't feel comfortable with this feeling.
Anyway things have got really bad again the past few months so I thought I would try counseling again and have a session booked for Thursday.
I want to be completely open about everything, i really want to get well.but I'm scarred.
There are some things I find too painful to talk about and have never told anyone.
I think if I could just be more open i could get better but i find it hard.
Is there anyone out there who is a therapist, do they ever judge the patients and think of them as weak for not being able to cope.
I feel embarrassed as im 35 now, i should be able to cope with life.
Will the therapist judge me?
Answers:
The education and training for therapists emphasizes the need to not judge. This is basic counseling skills 101. At least the classes I have taken did. Each therapist is human and definitely not perfect, but overall I believe that most therapists have the empathy to not have this tendency.I have been on both sides of the counseling relationship and all my therapists have been accepting and nonjudgmental. Decide to trust until you see signs that they are not trustworthy. It will take several sessions to develop a rapport so give it some time. The right therapist can be very helpful, but in order for it to work, the client needs to overcome their resistance to the process. Resistance is a normal part of therapy, but being aware of it can help overcome it. Good luck.
A good therapist absolutely will not judge you and will probably help you see your secrets in a new and less shameful way. But, the important thing for you (and the therapist) is to first build what's called a therapeutic alliance. That means that the therapist must first earn your trust. Once you feel you can trust the therapist, you will find it quite easy to share your secrets. If you don't feel you can trust the therapist, then you should look for another one.
If you don't want to comply with their recommendations of treatment such as medication, and you say you can't talk openly, then what is it you want? You are tying their hands. If it's that bad then you would take medication.
They are people too. Yes they are judgmental but if they are professional they won't bring it up.