What's the best way to deal with an irrationally angry parent?!


Question: What's the best way to deal with an irrationally angry parent?
Assuming I don't move out soon, what's the best way to deal with an irrationally angry parent? My parent is so angry all the time and nags me so much, I don't even take them seriously anymore. I'm not mean, do what they say, and show complete deference, but my parent remains in a state of constant rage. What's the best way to deal with it?

Answers:

Better communication. People yell and get angry when they don't think anyone is listening, or following through.
It could be their way of thinking it will keep you on your toes, or you will move out sooner also. idk

You could start by (politely not irratating or escalating the situation),
even tempered and calmly repeating back to the parent exactly what they said. like ' I heard you say you want me to dump the trash out asap ,and clean my room, ' then say' I will be doing that right away, or in a couple minutes, as soon as i am done with tying my shoes, and brushing my teeth, or what ever. ' Then be sure to do that.
Make lists if you can't remember everything you need to do, or are asked to do.
If you want to talk something out, then ask when a good time would be to talk, or to drive you somewhere, or to do this or that. If the parent says, not now, then ask when, and then repeat back what they say
I heard you say you can talk to me this evening and drive me to such and such at such and such a time'
Just keep doing that calmly and they will begin to realize you ARE listening and following through and the angry yelling will quiet.
At some point, you can ask for a good time to talk, and then let them know that it is unnecessary to yell, it makes you feel, however, and that you are listening.
If you or either need a 'do over' , after messing something up, then make an agreement that each can ask for a do-over if they need one.
Get in the habit of this communication and things will improve quickly, especially if the parent then in turn does the same, but even if not.
People, even parents , have the right to their feelings, it is what we do with them that counts.

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