Getting the urge to self harm, what should I do?!

Make sure you don't self harm in any way. Distract yourself, and find another way to deal with your pain. Take a bath, read a book, go for a walk. Do anything but self harming! it is not a good emotional outlet, and usually leaves scars. I have personally self harmed in the past, and I have to say that I regret having ever done it. It's a bad choice to make, and I don't think the temporary feeling is worth it. There are SO many other things you can do to make yourself feel better! Trust me on that :) Think about everything that has ever made you happy. Good luck xxx

I'm not going to say see a counsellor, because I know how uncomfortable that prospect is.

Firstly, why exactly do you feel like this? Are you angry, frustrated, sad, numb etc? And what is causing the emotion? Is something going on in your life that is making you feel this way? Or do you just...feel it, for absolutely no reason? If there is a problem, and you know what it is, I strongly encourage you to deal with that problem in a more practical way than self harm. I know first hand that self harm only makes you feel better for a while, and then afterwards you feel even worse. Also, it's addictive. If you can really help it, please don't start. Go for a hard run until your legs can't hold you up, go for a swim until your arms ache, exhaust yourself, honestly, it works. Or go grab your pillow and scream into it, or punch it, or tear up a folded piece or cardboard. Anything but hurting yourself. As long as it's just an urge you can control, you can do these things...but once it gets to something more you may seriously need to think about talking to someone.

I get this too. Speaking from experience, don't opt for something "less dangerous" sometimes when I wanted to cut, i would just scratch myself with a blade/pin/ whatever, but It always let to cutting.
When you feel the urge to self harm, take yourself out of the environment that you would do it in, and put your mind on something else. I know it's easier said than done...

I would suggest seeing a therapist, too. Try to understand why you feel like self harming. "To take away the cause is to take away the effect"

Dear One, Tomorrow, call: 1-800/dontcut

The people you will talk with are nonjudgmental, caring and do not criticize. They are just there to help you to stop self harming. They know how to help and know what to do. Please call. I promise you won't regret it.

Now, you can go to: selfharm.com

Self harm is always a substitute for expressing yourself, releasing emotions in a healthy way. You might not have that opportunity, I don't know. I know of a person who cuts when her parents just yell at her all the time and she gets punished if she speaks her mind. She is unable to express herself at this time. She is getting into therapy which is excellent because when a minor goes into therapy, the entire family ends up being treated. Her parents don't know it, but their therapy is just around the corner! They won't be yelling at her for too much longer.

Anyway, I don't know your situation. All situations can change though. It won't be like this forever. Don't give up hope and remember to have compassion for yourself. You probably have love for others. Well, gather up some love for you and treat yourself well, like you deserve to be treated. You don't deserve to be treated badly. Take good care.

I have no way of knowing what kind of situation you are in but i can promise you that it will get better, whether your boyfriend just left you or you feel worthless, those feelings will disappear soon enough but the scars that remain from self harming will be there for the rest of your life reminding you of a bad time in your life. Everything happens for a reason, so all you have to do is learn from this experience you are going through now and move on. dont dwell on it..I hope this helps :)

You have a couple of different options:
Call a friend. Either one who knows about you're self harm problem or not, it doesn't really matter. Talk about how you're feeling or what's going on or something random. People help us feel not so alone.
Talk to a family member. I don't what you're family situation is like, but if there's someone compassionate available, go talk to them. Wake them up if you have to. These are the people who don't want to see you get hurt.
Distract yourself. Make a puzzle. Draw. Make a card castle. Eat something. Listen to loud music. Watch tv. Paint you're toe nails. It doesn't matter what, but doing nothing makes it worse (for me anyway)
Put an ice cube against your skin and let it melt. The sensation might help
Draw lines on you're skin with marker or paint (if you're a cutter. If it's something else sorry)
Write about how you feel. Put the caps lock on and scream it to the world.
If you want to, you can email me at happypurplecgirl@yahoo.com. I don't know how much help I can be, but I'll try...
Good luck. Stay strong. And nice job trying to quit. It's hard...

personal experiance

Don't do it.

Life may suck now, but I assure you it will get better in the future. I suggest going to see a therapist and working out your problems in life. Remember, we only live once. Try to live your life to the fullest because we are only here temporarily on this earth. So smile, laugh, love, etc. as much as you can because you never know when your going to leave this earth. Life is precious, don't do anything to harm yourself. Think of it this way: There is ALWAYS going to be someone in the world that has it much worse than you do. Thinking of this helps me get through my day and makes me appreciate all the little things I have in life and forget about all the things I don't have. Think really REALLY deep about what I said. Good luck and take care.

1800 DONTCUT

You could call the number above they could help you out

the best thing to do at the moment is to distract yourself as much as possible. Call a friend or have a family member do something with you like - video games, Go for a walk etc

You need to use all your will power to stop yourself.

Good luck

"The prostitute is not, as feminists claim, the victim of men, but rather their conqueror, an outlaw, who controls the sexual channels between nature and culture."

Camille Paglia

Go see a counseler darling :/

Go see a counseler darling :/