My partner suffers from depression but refuses to seek help?!

It sounds like your boyfriend has been through a lot, and as strong of you to try and be a support for him in the current situation. You also have the self-experience of a previous relationship, where your former boyfriend's mental malaise had a tragic end. It is no wonder that you are concerned about the situation with your spouse, even if it is about different people and situations.

It appears that you have got into an energy-consuming pie, without the possibility of orkesgivande recovery. It can be hard to see a loved one suffer, and it is easy to life a little bit "put on hold".

You also write that your partner hesitates and postpones the moment of seeking help, which no doubt also creates frustration for you. It may be that if your spouse has had difficult experiences in their contact with community action, it is easier not process. To seek help means that you start to unravel in what "hurts", and that it can be "recognized" this for himself.

Although it may seem tedious, so it is important that you continue to encourage your spouse to seek support. Is there any other person that your partner feel confident, and who also knows the history that was? As might also be able to talk to your partner? Also remember that if it could it be that you feel that your partner's prevention of nausea becomes acute deterioration, or intolerable in any other way, so you can always call to a psychiatric emergency / outpatient clinic for advice. It is easier to talk directly with experienced professionals, who also have the opportunity to ask questions.

For your part, it is important that you try to find a balance, where you also have the opportunity to take care of yourself and your own health, even if the course is easier said than done. How are you yourself with friends / family / network / leisure / work situation? Do you have someone in your vicinity that you can get along with reflection on thoughts and ideas with? Is there any possibility for you to try to have some water holes where you can regain energy / stamina? Think about what it could be, and if you can get it into your everyday life.

One suggestion is that you call your GP and make an appointment with your GP. Among other things, most clinics offer shorter counseling by a psychologist / counselor, and it can be a good idea to get help to work around the behavior and handling based on your experience and situation, your doctor is able to refer you. One can only start with yourself, and maybe it can also help your partner take the step.

Hon, first, I'm confused. You seem to be talking about two different people, one current, and one from your past who committed suicide. That said, I'd like to ask you to consider something - that you may be attracted to troubled souls. We all have things that we are drawn to and if you've had two relationships that have suffered depression that may be a clue.

Now, the truth of relationships are that you cannot make another person do what you want. They have to want help, they have to want to be better. They have to be willing to take the steps to improve their lives, you cannot do it for them. You can support them and encourage them, but the bottom line is that they have to want it and do it on their own. All you can do is encourage him. If he is unwilling to get help, you have to next do what is the best thing for you. You have to do what is right for you - and that usually means moving on. Your investment in them needs to stop when you are being hurt and affected by their misery. It is not the way to live. And you are not their savior, so you need to stop trying.

I'd venture to guess if what I read is accurate that a past relationship where he committed suicide has left you with a lot of pain, and you are trying to fix this person. You don't need to do that. People ultimately do what they want to do, or feel they need to do and they rarely do what others want them to do. You need to protect your interests and yourself. You come first, remember that.