whats wrong with her? and should I try being her friend?!


Question: Whats wrong with her? and should I try being her friend?
Ok, well im a senior in high school. In one of my classes there is a girl who really doesn't talk to anyone. I think she's a grade younger than me. I know what its like to be lonely and not have many friends, I was in that position the first few years of high school. Well one day she was playing a computer game and I said, "hey what you playing?" just to be nice... and she said "Um a game" in an aggressive tone and gave me a look. My really good friend is her neighbor and he said she has always been "weird" and "mean to everyone all the time" And from what I ave seen, she is. She seems like a very angry person who's maybe just lonely but Id be afraid to try to be her friend because someone told me they have tried and she would say things like "your dint really want be my friend, your just asking me to hangout to make fun of me" and things like that. I started to think she might have other psychological issues. Every class, at some point she gets into the fetal position in her chair and kind of like rocks back and forth. Also, (Im really not trying to be mean) she looks different, like maybe she was born with a deformity... idk.

how can I try being nice to her? I feel really bad for her...

Answers:

what I think it is is she is embarrased to make friends, she feels no one will like or shes not worth having a friend. I really think you should be her friend, people always say that they don't want a friend, but i'm sure they do. Maybe if you told her you WERENT being her friend to make fun of her, and that you DO want to be her friend, maybe she will be a little more sympathetic. or you can simply sit next to her at lunch, thats were i meet most of my friends. i love how you want to be her friend and i hope you do, it seems to me she needs friends most of all. invite her to do things, etc, and i'm sure she will feel less upset and more happy....you should always take time to make someone else feel better. you dont know their situation, and by being their friend you could make their day so much better.

I do this all the time, it makes me feel good.



Try talking to her. Explain to her how you used to be lonely like her. Be her friend. Send her flowers anonymously and see what happens. She probably has a mental disorder but that doesn't mean she should be shunned.



don't push yourself on her, she may have difficulty trusting people, just be friendly and see where it goes. say hi etc.



im a senior in high school as well, i understand both your positions VERY well. just continue to do what youre doing. all you can do at this point is just show kindness and maybe she will warm up to you at some point. if she doesnt, then thats on her. im sure she has a defensive wall built up from past ridicule and loneliness. its okay to pity her and be nice to her but if she doesnt come around then you shouldnt feel an obligation to make her have friends. what youre doing is a very nice thing, keep it up!

high school hell experiences :P




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