I'm extremely depressed... help?!
Question: I'm extremely depressed... help?
I started high school in 07 and didn't really fit in with anyone there, got bullied, etc. So I didn't make many friends, but I did have one good friend, but she moved schools half way through 08. So basically I finished that half a year alone, with nobody, and then started home schooling this year, which is alot better cos I don't have to put up with bullying and stuff and I wouldn't feel so depressed. But anyway, since my friend moved she doesn't make any effort to catch up with me like I was kinda expecting this but she never bothers with me unless I start the msn convo or something and we haven't even seen each other in person since she moved schools... so anyways the other night was looking at her myspace profile and shes taken me completely out of her list of friends.. wtf? So in other words.. I've pretty much been ditched for all her new friends and I now have nobody whatsoever. I am planning to talk to her about how upset I am but I don't really no whether its worth bothering. I was up all night upset about her.... then there's my family...
my dad doesn't talk to me at all (all her cares about is my brothers football career)
my brother doesn't either (because he thinks hes really cool and stuff and im just a nerd or whatever)
my mother does talk to me but sometimes she doesn't like, I could get up and she'll be super happy and really really nice and then other mornings i could get up and get the silent treatment for no reason soo...
anyway, I basically don't have anyone that cares about me.... I am really lonely and I just feel like dying. I have become really socially anxious too thanks to all the bullying and stuff so now I feel like even if i put myself out there I won't be able to make friends with anybody now...
So is my life worth living?? The only thing that keeps me going is my dream of being an actress but to be honest, how likely is that???
I just want to die.... what can I do? I don't wanna call those hotlines either because I've tried that and its not really for me.. I don't find them helpful at all.
Sorry about how long this is =[
Answers:
WOW - lots going on here. You have no problem communicating your thoughts. Your command of the written word is impressive. Consider yourself one of the few who can put two sentences together and have it make sense. I can tell you are intelligent. You are ahead of your peers and that is why you do not fit in. Be thankful that you do not fit into that group. It is difficult now but you will do very well in college where you can sort it out with people on your level. So for now I have a very different approach to helping you out in your current situation.
There is a book written by a man named Marshall Rosenberg that can really help you make your life much more enjoyable. The name of the book is Nonviolent Communication - A Language of Life. Don't let the title confuse you, it is about human communication Check it out on Amazon. It is a great technique and it takes a lot of practice.
In short there are only two things that humans are attempting to say to each other,please and thank you.Most of the time we fail miserably at doing this communicating. He will show you techniques that make it a whole lot easier to deal with people. Good luck and hang in there. Please check out the book.
your fake friend never really cared about you, she was pretending, believe ive had that with a lot of friends when i moved. Get a job and make friends there, ur dad and your brothers are total ***** for ignoring you. Just wait, one day they will regret it...
I don't understand why you are not moving on with the wonderful life you were born to live and are still hanging on to childhood hurts. If you started high school in 2007 and it is now 2011 then what has held you down from enjoying your life all this time? You must receive good grades in your home schooling, cause you write your thoughts down in a very skillful manner but that could have been one of the biggest mistakes you made in your life cause it interfered with your gaining social skills and communicating with your peers in social settings.
Do you simply sit at home or do you ever venture out into the world? Did it ever occur to you to attend an church synagogue,temple Kingdom Hall or any other place of worship where people tend to be less critical and more accepting of each other faults and all?
Did you ever think of doing volunteer work in your community cause helping others and sharing a common goal can help you gain social skills and have the added plus of up lifting your spirits and giving you a most needed boost to your self esteem while also helping others that ned your aid?
You have got to look outside of your sell fin order to help yourself. You have missed out on so much in your young life and it is time you set out with the business of living. Instead of contacting a suicide hot line you should set your sites on seeing a doctor that could prescribe you anti depressant medication and refer you to other specialist that can help you regain your equilibrium, or maybe introduce you to a self help group in your age bracket contending with many of the problems and issues you are having. There is a light at the end of the tunnel and I pray you see it ad follow it to the happiness that awaits you. Love friends perhaps children and all of the things that make life worth living. You are not alone God loves you.
Ok let me start out by saying that I was pretty much in this situation to an extent. Teenage years can be very difficult especially when you are the one being bullied. Feeling alone is one of the worst feelings that you can experience, but just realize that there are many people out there that feel the same way. I know that that doesn't make you feel any different but just know that you are by no means alone! I think that it may have been a bad idea for you to revert to homeschooling to escape from the bullying, maybe switching school would have been a better idea. Homeschooling may not be a great option for you as it further isolates you from other people your age, further limiting your chances of making new friends and making it more difficult for you to be involved in social situation. I know bullying can be tough and scary, but you can not run away and isolate yourself in fear of all of that. Right now reading this message from you makes me want to give you a big hug and tell you to hold your head up because even though things seem very hard right now, they are bound to become easier. I definitely think a therapist may be very beneficial for you. The hot lines are not for everyone, they are mainly for crisis such as suicidal thoughts and mental health crisis like relapse with schizophrenia. As for your family life, have you tried speaking to your father about how you feel? Your mother? Your brother? Communication is incredibly important as they may not be aware you are feeling that way. Maybe try talking to your mother about everything? If not try asking her to help you find a therapist who will be able to help you out with many of your problems. They may be able to help you formulate strategies in coping with these issues as well as correcting you issues as well. As for you friend that moved away, I would just let her go, she obviously moved on and so should you. Negative friends are not good people to have in your life. I know that as you say, you have no friends, but as I stated before, how can you make any if you are isolating yourself in your home? Try extracurricular activities such acting workshops! This way you can interact and meet people with the same interests as you! I know you think yourself as a nerd, but let me tell you, it is the nerds who are most successful later in life! Just try to stay strong, and please PLEASE go see someone that you can talk to because dying is NEVER the way to go! Like I said it may seem very tough right now, and maybe seem even IMPOSSIBLE but things will get better for you, you just have to have a little bit of faith! It breaks my heart to read something so upsetting from someone so young! Lastly, DO NOT and I repeat DO NOT ever doubt your dreams! If you want to be an actress get yourself more involved in things that could help you with that dream, like my suggestion from early Acting workshops, Theater programs, Film workshops! You are the only person who can truly help yourself out of this funk, please try to be strong and get yourself out of this funk the RIGHT WAY!!! GOOD LUCK!
Really all I can say Is **** you old friend she obviously wasn't a real friend, and no offense but your brother is a douche. Its not rrally hard to make friends just start conversations with people and get some antidepressants depends on if you really need them, and good look making those friends and get the best of life.
no one isn't worthy of living
i would ditch your family, get a job(acting) and a girlfriend and new friends...
just be yourself and ditch that fake friend....
FIND A NEW WAY TO LIVE :))
I'm sorry you are having a rough time :(
Do you plan on going to college? That can help you meet new people that will respect who you are and enjoy your companionship.
Are there any groups you could join in your area? Anything you are interested in?
Sometimes looking online for people with similar interests can help.
Are there volunteer opportunities available?
There are people out there that will like/love/care about you...just find them.
I hope this helps :)
You might feel like your both super sloped friends but the distance could be to blame I have a friend tag moved a while ago and I rarely message her, maybe 2 or 3 times...... Every other month.
why did she remove you? I got no answer to that other than she doesn't have time ( although that's not a good reason either)
So what's my answer ? The future there is always time to make new friends. Oh and....... Umm if you wanna talk to someone you could always add me on facebook ^~^ I'm interesting lol. Just search my name "neji emoscenestabr" I should be the online that comes up. But'm the one with the angry Asian girl as my default pic lol.
I'm wickedly awesome ;p