Help--new mom finding it hard to adjust!?!

You gave this little baby life and he depends on you for everything and he always will. Your life before was the past, your baby is your life now and nothing else in the world should matter. I'm 24 and I am having my second one. I used to wake up and be like...Im too young for this! but I look at my daughter and realize how much she loves me and I mean the world to her. So now, my life is devoted to her needs before my own. It will get better when he starts to say, I love you Mama...and they start hugging and kissing you. he'll be your best friend! I gurantee it.

Pick up the phone and call some of your family to come and help with the baby . If family isn't around then call friends. Call though right away. You can also contact local agencies that your doctor will have numbers for. They come and help you do simple things with the baby and they are often mothers themselves that have gone through what you are feeling. You need time to sleep and eat well. You need to have time for yourself especially now. Your baby will be fine being cared for by others for a while until you adjust. What you are going through is very common. Your hormones are all upset and they effect your entire body functioning including your thoughts and anxieties . Please call someone now. People will be happy to help. Don't be ashamed and dont be afraid to ask for help. Do it.

Hello,

I know the way you feel,I also felt VERY tired and depressed when my son was such a young baby,like you I said to myself that I could never have prepared for what life was gonna be like.I cried for no reason and thought that I probably wasn't meant t be a mother,but what I ca tell you for sure is that this feeling of misery doesn't last.Now my son is nearly three years old and life with him is just so much easier,I do not regret is baby months at all.Don't forget that what you feel is mainly due to the hormonal dropping that you experience right now,it is not because you have delivered that you body hasn't anytrace of th prgnancy anymore,your body needed nine months to produce a great deal of hormons to keep your baby in you and your hormonal level is falling only very progreesivelly after childbirth,in addition to that the baby requires a lot of attention and you adpat to its own rhythm which is very different from your natural one.Try to rationalize your emotions and feelings,be indulgent to yourself and encourage others to do the same and you'll see tht all this negative bits of emotions will fade .
Good Luck.

You really expected it to be any different? This is how babies are. It will get better when he starts going to sleep and not waking up crying every 20 minutes. I've babysat babies before (My little sister) And she was crying literally Every 10 minutes. If i left the room she would start crying. But every time she started i would think to myself. This baby is going to get better, And they're eventually going to turn into a wonderful adult and have a great life. But also go through this themselves. And idk why but that got me through :/
Hope this could help :)