Are some children just born unloveable?!


Question: Are some children just born unloveable?
Are some children just born weird, unloveable, or evil? I am the youngest of three, and working through my issues of feeling unloved and full of shame. I am just wondering maybe I wasn't worthy of love from the beginning? I am wondering if I could have just been born unloveable. Thanks for your help...

Answers:

No, all babies come out lovable. Its the parents that have to return then unconditional love.



Gestation has a lot to do with development. Some babies have parts undeveloped as a result of drug usage or medication or trauma for the mother. Babies are generally stimulated to prevent mental retardation today but some babies are born unresponsive to love. Mothers generally have a hard time coping with the baby and it begins the cycle of rejection that can last much if not all a lifetime. Depression sets in after puberty and generally it can lead to mental illness in some form or another. We are the loners, the outsiders, even the outcast in life and crossover takes skill and an interest in helping the lost ones. Your struggle is limited to less than a quarter of all females and a full quarter of all males. Someone will have to tell you what has not been shown to you. The sooner you ask the better.



I would counter with an argument stating no one is born lovable, that no one ever earns love. Traditionally parents love their children and children love their parents but love is still a choice people make daily. Children until they are older instinctively are drawn to their parents and love them for providing food and shelter. Parents don't need children and some parents choose not to love them everyday. But either way a newborn child is shouldn't be held accountable for not recieveing love, since they can't control another person.



No, every person is born innocent, thus including those who are considered evil. It's called the School of life, we all go through things and experiences but its the way you handle them that shows your true colors. Don't be hard on yourself, we are who we are and you should be proud of who you are. Keep your head up and don't be hard on yourself. One Love



its that you must not have any respect for your parents. this the root of all problems at home.. try showing some respect and appreciation for the things your parents do. try to appreciate every thing including the roof they put over your head. You treat parents like **** then they are gonna treat you like **** and before you know it 4 years have gone by and now every one is everyone else in the families enemy so the answer is no.. no child baby or human s unloveable what a silly question any one who cant be loved especially by their parents must first look at them self as the cause and try to fix the problem if there is to be any hope.

i just know things



well understand this. if a person has a child and they children feels liek they are unloveable the problem is with the caretakers themselves and the solution is to let them figure thing out themselves.
the idea is, to realise that we r all responsible for everything.
my own experience.



No, they aren't born unloveable. No one is.
But people do become difficult to deal with since they have to be all whiney and complain over everything, kinda like you are here right now.
That's why. People who constantly put themselves down get on my nerves. r.r
But I bet your friends don't think this.



No, children aren't born unlovable. Some parents, though, are incapable of love, and that could make you feel unlovable.

Get help. Find someone you can talk to. Maybe a minister or priest, or a local counseling program.



children aren't born evil, but we are born with a general need to kill one another. proof is in the history: WW2, WW1, french revolution, american revolution, staline, rwanda, etc.



No, absolutely you were not born unlovable. I am glad to hear that you are working through your issues. It sounds like you had a difficult childhood. It takes a lot of time to work through your issues. Sounds like you are on the right track.



all kids are born loveable! its just how their parents treat them..




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