My husband is suffering from depression, what should I do?!
Question: My husband is suffering from depression, what should I do?
I feel very bad myself being in this helpless situation, his mood is very infectious, I always feel hopeless with him. I try to encourage him and watch film with him, really I try everything, It does not help.
What else can I do ?
Answers:
The question is if the job is the only source of stress. A possible answer could be looking for a new job.
But things are not so easy with depression. Even a new job will not make depression go away.
Depression will continue. An example a re care givers and there is a 6 year study on care givers
available which is showing that after the death of spouse depression is going on.
My suggestion is to use some mood lifting actions which are quick kicking in and see how far you will come. Possible methods are waking/jogging/treadmill 3 times a week for 30 minutes or more. A change in food by omitting things which are known for keeping depression alive which are high sugar intake (watch out for sweet lemonades full of sugar) and saturated fats from animals ( red meat) which should be replaced by white meat (chicken, turkey). Increase the amount of fruits and vegetables.
Anti-stress food are walnuts and almonds (3 oz minimum daily). They contain also a weak antidepressant. No side effects known. Fishoil (omega-3 capsules) are cheap helpers against depression (3000 mg daily) and clear mood lifting.
If you want to read more:
http://psychologytoday.com/articles/pto-…
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/dep…
Men don't like to talk about their problems with the loved ones in their lives, this can be very hard on you as you'll feel like you're walking on eggshells around him. For me what did help were normalising experiences, going out shopping or for a walk, getting cuddles in bed (even if I didn't feel like sex) or similar things that reminded me I was loved and important.
You do need to be strong though, with work related stress he'll feel like a failure for not being able to look after you. With some men you can motivate them by finding problems that he can solve, even if its getting him to open a jar or chase a spider off but be careful because it might also lead to him getting angry at you.
Most importantly make sure you have someone who you can talk to and let the pressure off.
Being depressed
SUPPORT !
let him know you are there for him - no matter what ! Tell him this regualry and ask him what you can do to help.
Little things like making his favourite food for dinner, watching movies, having a good discussion with him can really help get him in a better mood !
As for helping with depression, talk to him and find out what he actually hates about it, put it into prospective for him - if he doesn't like the collegues but likes one - bond with them and invite them to dinner. Get him down to earth and try to make him understand that you can help him solve things and remember things could be worse !
best of luck, tell him that someone out there is praying for him
my best friend was suffering depression
This kind of situation generally appears in stressful life, there may be some abnormal in his business or in his work, you can discuss with him. He needs a moral support and you are doing a good job by encourage him. You can plan some trip and some vocations. yoga, meditations are good technique that relax and fuel the body.
I have a BA in psychology and what I can tell you is that everyone in the internet will talk trash or give you false info.
What you have to do is get him to a psychologist and if he refuses hire a psychologist to come to your home and converse with him about his situation.
Don't give up on him, he is your husband.
Best of luck & best answer me if you don't mind.
P.S. Don't feel hopeless because there is always hope.
BA in psychology
It may be time to try counseling. But I don't know how he would feel about that. You should also try to get him doing things he used to love to do. If he can start doing things he likes again then it may help him deal with his new job a little better.
http://beatdepression.askbob.org
I think you should create something for him to do. maybe a hobby or something that he might enjoy and look forward to. Even if it means giving up a little money. maybe fishing or golf. airfix models? going to sport matches?
he is in depression and you know is..try to find the reason...
and insure him that in any kind of situation you will stand with him and you love him...
Is he on medication? Either way, he needs to see his doctor so that he gets professional help.
BJ
find out whats in his mind.
sex