Does this boy sound more narcissistic or borderline?!

I assume you are talking about a personality disorder...Well from what you have said, their really is no way to tell, You didn't give much information that would designate one or the other. Their is a big difference between the two though. Narcissistic people do try to be perfect but they are also very self absorbed and think they are perfect. People with Borderline Personality Disorder seem very self absorbed and try to be perfect because they are extremely insecure people. They want to seem perfect because they are afraid of failure and abadonment. People that are Borderline will fall in love with someone, and it will seem very real to the both of them, but then they start showing their insecurites and start becoming possesive little by little and start controlling you. They have a very black and white way of veiwing things. So either you are good or bad and their lovers aren't immune to this either. So when they start calling names and accusing them of cheating their partner usually tries to put them at ease and does what ever they want...little by little they draw you into their drama and keep you there. But they do love, they just have a hard time controlling their emotions, they think with their emotions. I know all this because I married a man with Borderline Personality Disorder. They are not bad people they just really need some mental help. Narcissists are another story and can often find joy in other peoples pain and are usually only worried about themselves, they are very good liars and do like to play games with your head. With that said people with BPD will also play games with you too, like tell you lies to see how you react and things of that nature. Either way you may want to think about distancing yourself from him, he sounds like he might create a lot of drama in anyones life.

He doesn't know how to communicate in helping someone else so he turn it around on himself. he listens and understands but has no input to help others he doesn't know what words to use he feels bad through he can't help but has low speaking skills maybe

Don't have to be mental to demolish someone room unless you want to call Raging teenagers Mental too