I need to let go. Help?!
Question: I need to let go. Help?
What I'm asking is, where can I find help? I'm 15, and I don't feel I can trust any of my family with discussing these things, and my friends either have their own problems or would be deeply disturbed by mine. I can't trust many of my friends anyway.
I live in England, and I'm just wondering where I can go to speak to someone confidentially. Like a physchiatrist or therapist, or something.
Any ideas? All good answers much appreciated. Thank you.
Answers:
Well see firstly let me explain why your friends and family might be disturbed by your problems and not know what to do. As horrible as it makes you feel, try to understand that they have never felt or dealt with the pain you feel, so they can't ever understand it unless they are professional counsellors, and even then they can never know how much pain you feel. Which is why it's hard when all you want is your friends and familyss support and they don't know what to do, but they still love you, and if they don't then their not very nice people. So don't be too hard on them about it, although at times it can feel frustrating. Secondly there are many sources of help. Are there any counsellors at school, we used to have mentors? If so go and talk to them, depending on when there available, usually there in every day as a drop in, you can go in, when your in school whenever you feel you need someone to talk to and it can be a big help. Its hard to trust them at first but they can help make things easier for you in school. To speak to a psychologist of phychiatrist you have to go to your doctor. You can make the appointment for yourself and go into your doctor and just explain you really need to talk to a psychologist or physchiatrist. Usually if the doctor is good they will just refer you but they might ask you why. In which case tell them in brif that your feeling depressed, struggling in life to cope and need to talk to someone professional about it. The doctor then refers you to your local health center and you can go from there :). Depending on whereabouts you live there might be some drop in centres too where you can go, so go on google and search 'help centres' in your area. Also you can ring these numbers for help 24/7 -
Samaritans - 08457 909090...EMAIL: Jo@Samaritans.org
Childline (freephone number on home phones) - 08001111
YoungMinds - 08088025544
Monday and Thursday between 6:30 - 9:30pm you can ring Youth2youth who help people aged between 11-19 years old - 02088963675 and you can email them any time at http://www.youth2youth.co.uk/form2.htm
You can also find more helplines here - http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/mentalhealth/…
Good luck hun and take care xx
P.S stay strong. You will be ok hun :) xx the fact your asking for help shows great strength. I believe you will be ok x
you would need to ask a doc to see a therapist.
i use online groups.you don't have to use your real name .
theres plenty of them out there full of ppl who've got the same or similar problems.
they are also mines of information on getting help or sef help.
best wishes
my life
Sometimes a person finds it better to speak to an outside person like the Doc, and you know it will stay purely confidential. Explain your symptoms and how it affects your daily life and he will talk to you about the different help available like drugs or talk therapy. Don't expect it to go away on it's own, because I know it does not, after 7 years of suffering alone. Like you, I did not trust anyone and still dont, but my Doctor is great he listens and my medication has been very helpful so far. It's a long journey to freedom after that, but you learn new things about your self on the way.
15 is a horrible age for a lot of people. Its an age when you arent a kid and not a full blown man. The things that you talk about are much more common than you think. You know the gobby one in your class the one who seems to have it all well a lot of that is bravado and show and underneath can sometimes lie a very unhappy person. It takes a lot of time to understand your own feelings and be at peace and like yourself, its something that comes naturally and cant be rushed.
Do you have a Youth Worker try your local council or something like a youth centre that you could wander into. If you walk into the office there is usually a worker there, discuss this and they will guide you to the right place. If you go to your GP there is a long wait for therapy and by the time your appointment comes you will most likely be at ease with yourself.
Take time from your studies if only for one night in the week when you can socialise. Trust comes with many situations in a friendship good and bad and its up to you to find a friend that you feel you could tell everything to. if your not good with this then that person isnt for you.
I think that you have had happy times which you refuse to acknowledge and push them out from under your black cloud. Black clouds are heavy and pointless. There is an up and coming gorgeous young man in you. Go find a youth worker and talk they are trained and are marvellous. I know your life will become orderly and the way you want. Try talking to your family if you dont feel comfortable back off but in the long run they will support you as you have a lot of love and care and are very open sharing your life with strangers. Well done and good luck.
mum of 3 grown ups
the fact that you are fifteen and so clued into your own feelings and has managed to analysis them, shows you are a birght kid and you really have nothing to fear. Life is tough and you are just a bit too clever for our own good, I'm afraid. You are astute and notice things in more depth than the normal crowd. you need to start enjoying every day, and put some passion into something creative maybe. go to your doctor and don't take any crap. when you talk to a counsellor you will realise you are more clued in than them......stay positive and don't let things get on top of you. you will move on from this....sometimes being the way you are is not such a bad thing.....