Does anyone else find this kind of depressing, concerning the death of someone?!
Question: Does anyone else find this kind of depressing, concerning the death of someone?
Anyway, just a couple of days ago some girl in my community passed away, she had cancer. Ever since then, I've been seeing all of these posts of FaceBook, particularly on two people's walls who died last spring. These two other people committed suicide, and they were seniors in high school. The girl who just died of cancer is a senior in high school this year, or was, I guess. These posts that I've been reading have been of this nature, "make sure so and so gets to heaven okay!"
Basically, I am finding this behavior kind of morbid for some reason... I think it's really disturbing that people are confirming the death of these two other kids by telling them to befriend another dead person. Maybe I'm finding it disturbing because I don't believe in god or heaven, I'm not sure... there are a couple other feelings I have about this that I'm not sure how to explain... but, what do you guys think about this?
Answers:
Yeah I find that a little weird as well :L
If I was a friend or family member of the 2 who committed suicide I would actually be offended by that. I know everyone deals with and mourns death differently and can find that sort of thing comforting but I see that as kinda like hmm... Not like "rubbing it in" that these two other people have died just like using their death as reassurance? I don't know how to explain it... Either way I think it's kinda inappropriate. But that's just me!
Why would you be offended if you don't believe in God?
Heaven is not hell. Heaven is love.
I think it is so sad that 2 committed suicide. It is sad that a senior died of cancer.
I hate to hear this.
Sorry about your loss. I hope you are not offended by my answer,
I am just giving my opinion.
I don't find anything wrong with it. These people are grieving so let them grieve the way they want. If thinking another person is helping the newly deceased by guiding them to heaven helps the living person cope then so be it. It's not really anyones place to tell them what to believe or how to handle someones death.
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I didn't say you couldn't have an opinion on it. I'm just saying be more open minded and try not to impose your beliefs on them. You might not be doing it physically but by not understanding where someone else might come from you are in a sense putting your beliefs on them. It's like humanizing something by saying such and such has feelings or something like that when it really doesn't. I don't know if I'm making myself clear or not but just don't assume that everyone thinks like you do when it comes to things like this. You might not believe what they do but just accept it's their way of coping.