How do I know if I'm depressed?!
Question: How do I know if I'm depressed?
I've had crushes on people that would never love me back. I had thoughts that they might, so I kept on trying. It got up to the point to where I fell in love with that person. Then something would happen that would ruin my hopes of them every liking me, because they were either straight, or they liked someone else. I would always want to be alone and cry myself out.
No one really knows about my feelings. I've always kept them bottled up, whether they are sad thoughts, anger, or not wanting to do something, I don't say anything. I just say that I can cry about it later, when no one's around.
When I'm around people, I usually try to act happy, and my friends think I'm the happiest person they know. When I'm alone, I think back at things that have happened. They make me feel like I'm worthless, and something that doesn't deserve to live. Just to be tossed onto the ground and used. I've attempted suicide, but I didn't do it. I've attempted to hurt myself, but I couldn't do it. I didn't have the guts.
It seems like a personal matter, but I want to know if it seems like I'm depressed, so i can get proper help.
Answers:
I think you are suffering from depression yes. But don't let that alarm you or worry you in anyway, it happens to more people than you think and it's something you can absolutely overcome. I think your struggle with your sexuality is probably the main cause of it, and again it's completely natural for this to happen, especially at your age. There's many websites and groups you can look into of people who have been in your situation or who are in your situation. This is a good website - http://www.outlinesurrey.org/?gclid=CL7H… They also have a helpline number which is 01483 727667. Also theres a lot of true stories and discussions about it here - http://www.experienceproject.com/groups/… I'm sure if you researched it you would find a whole bunch of things. The main thing to remember is it is nothing to be ashamed off. Although there are people in this world who will make you feel like it is, it really isn't. At the moment I would say your confused and you need to work on your confusion. Talking about it with others really helps so try those websites, or find other forums where you can talk to others in your situation, share stories and you can do that anonymously. If you want you can always see a local counsellor to, to discuss your depression. You just go to your doctor and ask to be refered to a counsellor and if they ask why, just tell them in brief that your suffering with depression and want someone to talk to. In some ways I can relate to you, and it is hard but I promise you, you can overcome this. :) Stay strong xx and take good care xx
You're depressed when you can't actually feel anything. When It's all hollow and numb. When you're HOPELESS and always daydreaming. also when all of you think is negative
Someone needs to cheer you up :) plus don't worry all of your problems are so common and i have been there seriously
It is not always the best solution to hide emotions and smile with a wrong smile. You may try some mood lifting actions like walking/jogging/swimming and they world is looking much brighter.
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/dep…
It's best to seek help now, as even if you are not clinically depressed, you seem to be going through some rough things at the moment, and a psychologist or counsellor could help you out.
Don't try to self diagnose. With so much publicity around these days about mental health and depression, many people tend to misdiagnose themselves and it only makes things harder.
Definitely seek help. A psychologist could help you work through everything, and would know how to help a thousand times better than myself or anything on the internet.
Been there.
For the most part, you sound like a fairly typical teenager. I don't want you to think I am dismissing your concerns because I am not. I don't want you to obsess over the depression - that is the worst thing you can do if you have depressive thoughts is to think about it so much. The more and more you think about it, the more the depression consumes you - and you do not want to get to that point. It is a really hard thing to escape. I wasted two years of my life because of it.
I am glad you are concerns about the depression and you want to seek help - this is great!
The first step you should take is to see a counsellor. Your school may have one, if not your doctor can recommend one. Unsure which country you are in and whether or not there are free counsellors available.
Although you haven't mentioned it, I want to give you some advice in regards to anti depression medication. Medication for depression - it's a last resort. I have been on it several times, and I think that doctors prescribe it too easily. It is great for some people, but please try a counsellor for a few months first. It can mess you up even worse than you were to begin with.
A lot of people think seeing a counsellor is just a place to go and let out all your thoughts. While that is part of it, you also have to accept that they will give you activities to do to improve your situation - otherwise counselling is pointless.
Medication on it's own is not going to help in the long term, that is why counsellors are great - they teach you ways to overcome the depression and how to avoid it in the long term.
i wish you the best of luck. Being a teenager sucks!
Have had depression on and off since I was 15. Learnt a lot. I am now 26, my last depressive episode ending 2 years ago which lasted 2 years.