Should I see a therapist?!

No hun your never too young to speak to a counsellor or therapist, especially if you've got struggles. And let me just say your not alone hun, and you have nothing to feel bad for x It shows real strength you reaching out, and recognising you may have some struggles you need to work on. Your mother does sound like she needs help but that's up to her. I had a broken relationship with my mother, and she got into drugs and we have tried all we can to get her help but I've come to realise unless their willing to ask there's nothing we can do, but that doesn't mean it's our fault, and you sshouldn't feel guilty hun. I'm not surprised your feeling emotional and messed up over it, anyone would who has been through what you have. The cigeretted, pot and alcohol are a form of self harm, and they definately need to be addressed. Many people who have similar struggles suffer with some form of self harm as a release but you have to remember that while at the time they may offer a 'quick fix' it never lasts and it doesn't get rid of the problem. So I definately suggest you speak to a counsellor. It's very easy to do, you can get reffered through your doctor. You tell them in brief that your struggling and need to speak to a professional counsellor and they should then refer you to your local health centre. There might be a few drop in centres in your area aswel, so have a look on google to see if there is and whereabouts they are. There are some phonelines you can call anytime for help, here are a few of them -
Samaritans - 08457 909090...EMAIL: Jo@Samaritans.org
Childline (freephone number on home phones) - 08001111
YoungMinds - 08088025544
Monday and Thursday between 6:30 - 9:30pm you can ring Youth2youth who help people aged between 11-19 years old - 02088963675 and you can email them any time at http://www.youth2youth.co.uk/form2.htm

You can also find more helplines here - http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/mentalhealth/…

I hope this has been helpful to you, and I wish you all the luck in the world. I think your extremely brave and strong to reach out for help, it's a hard thing to do and you should be very proud of yourself. I think it's definately best to stay with your grandma, I've lived with my grandma for a while now, and she's been my rock. xx Take care hun xx

You should see a therapist. Its seems as though you have had a pretty tough upbringing :( but i believe it is something you can work through. If you want you can email here-to-help01@hotmail.com
goodluck :)

REIKI
Spiritual healing
counciling
voluntary work
Spiritual healing ,Seichim and Reiki healing
This is the application of spiritual energies to the effect of helping people on all levels of their being .
That includes
Your mental well being
Your emotional well being
Your physical well being
Your spiritual well being .
There are millions of these therapists around the world and people travel from far and wide to them .Billions of people have been helped from these therapies .

And like all therapists there are good and not so good and some specialise in certain conditions like the physical and some do the mental etc .It is important to find the therapist which suits your complaint .
But you must bear this in mind all healing comes under what is known as spiritual law =you will be healed to the extent that you have earnt .ie your karma –the reaping and sowing of all deeds done 0ften from past lives .And what you are doing for the service of others in this life .
Thus you may easily two people with the same complaint go for healing and only one of them gets healed .which is why voluntary work is vital for your healing.

You must Find good therapists in your area /and a good spiritualist church who often give their services for free as an offering to the divine .

All you do is usually sit down in a comfortable chair and relax and think good loving thoughts –the healer may or may not place their hands upon you .That depends on how they are working .

You can even put your names healing books where believe it or not healing is sent to you by thought and that can be very powerful as well.


Spiritual healing -- study the healing of harry edwards google search

Harry Edwards recalled the case of a young man who, accompanied by a lady, was brought to me for healing. He was in great pain and eaten-up with arthritis. As the healing proceeded, so his pains left him, and his joints began to loosen and become free. When I had finished treating him, it was a real delight to see how wonderfully glad he was to be able to use his legs, feet, arms and hands again... and then he told me: "When I came here, I was convinced no one could help me, and I came only to please my Aunt, who brought me."

You worked a miracle with his father when he was very ill 1983-84 when I wrote to you, but you will be pleased to know he is now working for the Council and lives a fairly normal life.

I's report is complete - he is 100% fit and will have no trouble in resuming his sporting activities -considering the first reports, this is a miracle. I do not know how I would have managed without your wonderful help.

You and the late Harry Edwards helped me so often and indeed I am still pressing on 18 years after I was expected to die from my last bout of cancer.

I wrote to ask for healing for my sister who was to undergo an operation for aneurysm in the aorta. Her operation was very successful. After 1 day in intensive care and 2 days in progressive care she was back in her own room and has done extremely well. She was allowed home after 7 days when she had been told to expect to be in hospital for 10 to 15 days. Everyone was amazed at her recovery and the surgeon told her she had been a perfect patient. I feel sure the absent healing and our prayers were to a great extent responsible for this wonderful recovery and I thank you most sincerely for your help.

I thought perhaps you would like to have a record of the people you have helped during the time I have been sending reports. M.L. -angina, complete recovery. D. L. -duodenal ulcer, complete healing. B.L. - Angina, complete recovery. P.D. - Leukaemia - apparent full recovery.

On behalf of my mother, daughter and myself may I thank you for the lovely day at your Sanctuary last Tuesday. My mother is so much better it is truly amazing. She can stretch out her arms and even raise them to her head and her walking is much stronger. My daughter was very impressed, too. 1141/6

Get the spiritual healing /reiki in place asap

And remember this

Voluntary work for you is a very good idea especially when u consider this principle

,.all our healing and happiness - yours and mine is linked right alongside our efforts and contribution to others.in direct proportion to the help we give others

ie your healing comes with helping others =so if people are doing very little in helping others ---they suffer more and longer...and if they are doing a lot they get well faster...

.so now you know what to do ,,and like a lot of us are already doing being of service.

Do not even dream of healing to come to you if you are doing wrongful acts , wrongful words , wrongful thoughts. All you are doing is making more of a burden for yourself

1 hour a day will make a difference to you and to others

therapists work well if u find the right one. so u r 16 and u lived through it. u weren't raped or abused. count that as a blessing. next get off the cigarettes, booze and funny stuff u smoke or whatever u do with the drugs. u r better than that and don't need them. learn from your mom's mistakes. as for being alone that can also be good. u don't have to ask permission to go where u want to or do what u want to. figure out where the fear in being alone is. are u afraid someone will break in? are u afraid of the dark? what is the real fear here. next decide u like yourself. u r worth something better than the life u r leading. u have seen better in people and worse in people so choose what u want and go for that. yes it will be hard since u r hooked on this stuff but u can do it. look at it this way when u come down from the drugs your problems are still there so they are not the answers. study hard and get an education so u can get a good paying job and maybe not have the set backs your mom had. u are a whole different person and don't have to be like mom or follow in her footsteps. so u were at least taught right from wrong so start there. u saw/see what the life of drugs and booze is doing from mom that is not what u want or u wouldn't be asking for help. u might be old enough to sign yourself into a rehab program to get u off drugs and stuff the rest is up to u - not to cheat yourself - that might be an option for u. yes your mom needs help too but she is not looking for help so there is not help for her. u need the help and want it so there is a great chance u will come out clean on this one. u fail at things cos u don't want them. if u really wanted to do these things u would have succeeded by now. so the anxiety could be enhanced by the drugs and booze and not a real fear all by itself. when u feel alone or scared turn on some noise, call a friend read a book or do a hobby. get your mind off it and the fear will pass sooner. as u practice this u won't be afraid anymore. the bottom line here is learn from her mistakes. she tried to get a better life for u. she found guys with problems at bars. i am not saying that she would have found better guys in church or the grocery but bars aren't the best place to pick up quality guys. if u need/want to talk e me. i am not a perv...

You have obviously been through some tough times in your life and have not had the family support that you may have needed to get through everything. Talking with your school counselor or school psychologist would be a good start. They can help you work through what is troubling you so you do not turn to these more harmful and dangerous coping strategies that you have in the past.
Although there is still a stigma about seeking therapy, please do not feel embarrassed. It is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. Everything you say will be confidential and you will feel much better after doing so. Talking about what is bothering you will not only help you work through your past issues, but will also help you be more prepared to deal with problems in the future. Best of luck.

http://www.counseling.org/home/faq.aspx
http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/men…
http://www.about-teen-depression.com/ATD…

your inner feelings have been abused so you turn to smoking cigarettes, marijuana, and alcohol your mind is reminding you of something that traumatized you and since nothing positive has taken the place of those bad feelings your turning towards quick fixes to ease the past, since you can't undo the past you can change what your doing now, if you want to vent, talk to people and see where they have been and how they cope, also keep busy, set goals, and admit to yourself what happened, happened and I need to move on and won't let bad feeling ruin my life

I strongly suggest you see a therapist. You don't have to worry about them judging you because they won't, I promise. It is a therapist's job to help you in any way possible. Trust me, it will make you feel better.

Yes, Absolutely. It sounds like you have had a very unstable life. And you tend to relate your pain/fear/anxiety with certain surroundings. I guarantee, you will feel much better after talking to a therapist about this, just somebody listening to the problems you have helps tremendously. I know because I went to therapists, i had a horrible anger issue and very bad relationships with my Dad and brother. They really open your mind and make you want to do something about it.