Therapy? Please help?!

Let me first reassure you that what you are feeling is completely normal. You have sought out a therapist because you need to repair some of the hurt that you feel and find a way to feel loved and lovable and your therapist is giving this to you because it is what you need. Therefore it is understandable and even desirable that you allow yourself to trust her enough to feel loved by her. It is part of the healing process. The more you trust her with your most difficult secrets/feelings and the more she is there for you, the more you can begin to believe in yourself as a good, normal, loving person who can form good honest loving relationships. Talk to her about your fears, bring them out into the open and they won't feel so terrible any more. She will help you, when you are ready, to work towards an ending together: but any good therapist will only 'let you' leave when you are ready. By then hopefully you have built up enough resources to feel you can take new, independent steps out in the world, this time as an adult: rather like leaving home when you're ready (rather than being thrown out or running away). She will only want what is truly the best for you. Don't be worried if at some point you feel angry with her though: this too is only natural: nobody can never ever let you down, it's just ordinary common sense and a real part of a loving relationship; it's never talking about it that is when it becomes the problem. I hope this helps.

Psychotherapy Training and
much experience in therapy, and in life!

it seems though you are attached ot her but she is overstepping the boundaries or you are misinterpreting what she is telling you
what affection is she showing you/she really should not be doing the whole comparison thing

it seems that maybe you need another therapist


best wishes

the therapist shouldnt allow this to happen