Lately, my life feels like its getting worse and worse... can anyone help me? GI!


Question: Lately, my life feels like its getting worse and worse... can anyone help me? GIRLS ONLY!?
I just got into seventh grade, and there's a lot of problems that have come along with it:
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1. My two best friends sometimes (sort of by accident) treat me as a third wheel.The thing is, they both live walking distance from each other, and their moms are great friends. So they have tennis lessons together every Saturday, and in the summer they both go to the same pool and hang out after meeting accidentally there. I live at the other end of town, and so I barely get to do things with them outside of school. And in school, they’re always talking about what great fun they had together over the weekend, at tennis or whatever. Its easy to feel left out.
2. The homework I’m getting is phenomenal, and I’m a straight-A student. My parents tell me its okay to get B’s, but its not okay for me! I’ve always been a bit of a procrastinator, so I end up waking up really early/sleeping really late to finish my homework. Plus, on the weekends, I feel like relaxing after a long, hard week of school, so I don’t do my homework until Sunday. But then the load crushes me and the stress kills me.
3. My school gave all the Junior High students Mac laptops to do our homework on, and while its awesome for schoolwork, its a HUGE distraction. Whenever I get down to do my homework, I check out a website and get distracted. This realization has made my mom delete all the iTunes tv shows on my mac, and I got really mad at her for it because they cost a bunch. So now I’m mad at her, and vice versa.
4. I've started feeling really low at really random times. So I could be doing anything, and suddenly I feel really depressed. Like so depressed that my heart starts sinking, and all I can think about is all that's wrong in the world. It's really depressing, but I don't want to talk to my mom about it because a) remember we're both mad at each other? and b) because it would be really awkward, especially if she just dismisses it as my imagination. Is it some sort of messed up part of puberty, or is it just me?
5. I have a light-speed metabolism, so no matter what and how much I eat, I'm really skinny. Like too skinny. I just can't gain weight!
6. I'm twelve years old, and just about every single other girl in my grade has boobs/is in a training bra. I have NO boobs, and I can't gain weight to get any!
7. The only part of puberty I AM going through is leg/arm hair, and my mom won't let me wax/shave it. She only lets me bleach it, and since I have black hair, it doesn't do a thing.
8. I keep crying when I get MAD, rather than SAD. It's really irritating and embarassing.
9. The pre-period discharge thing has been happening to me for like the past six months, and its messing up my underwear. But I'm too shy to tell my mom this, and my period just won't come!
10. I'm an immense procrastinator, and it's messing up my social life.
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So yeah, my life feels messed up right now. And it sucks.

Answers:

Hey i was 12 before...not too long ago :D hahaha.
honestly that age sucks. your hormones go all wack and you get mood swings. i have experienced 8,1,2 and sometimes , still 4.
you'll get through it. so i think you should talk to your friends, like hang out with them more. study sessions would be good then you can get your homework and studying done as well.
its important that you start becoming more disciplined, i was just like that. target yourself to finish your homework by this time otherwise, no relaxing time. be disciplined but not too strict, okay? like, balance out. if your target is 11pm, dont go past midnight if not you'll feel really so tired the next day and your weekend might not be so energetic. if you feel low, listen to music that brings you up, or watch some of your favourite tv shows or movies, or even call up a friend. sometimes you just need to get your mind off things.
for #6, your still growing so yea, be patient. youll get there.
for #7, get an epilator or those bleaching strips

hope it helps:)
and cheer up!

tried and tested and worked



Wow it's like a rerun of my teenage years although I'm only 20 so my teenage years aren't really that far behind me. I can eat anything and I'll only gain maybe 1 or 2 pounds. Then lose those pounds anyway. Teenagers can get depressed because of certain hormonal and chemical changes in the body. Females can get more depressed especially if they start their period. I have anemia because I bleed a lot during my periods. I started my period when I was 13 and that's when I started feeling the effects of depression. I wasn't very good in school because school was hard for me and I am still very shy around people so making friends is hard for me. I'm still an A cup and that is depressing but there's nothing I can do about that and you have to be patient. You'll only stop growing at about 21 years old. You don't know how your body will change until you reach around 20 years old. I cry when I get sad or mad so I listen to Eminem music because it makes me feel so much better. Go on youtube and watch the video "The Call" by Matt Kennon. It'll change how you think about things trust me. I bet your mother loves you and she just wants you to focus on homework. Tell her how you are feeling. You might need counseling and/or antidepressants. If your mother dismisses you try to explain that you are feeling sad. If you start feeling worse tell your mother or another trusted adult. Most teens get sad even depressed at times but by adulthood they are fine. I hope you have a good life.

This book is highly recomended. I own it myself. It's called
More Than Moody and it's by Harold S. Koplewicz.
Or try reading this, It's another fantastic book. It's called
Reviving Ophelia and it's by Mary Pipher.
They are not only very interesting but they're very informative. I wish I had read them while I was a teenager.




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