I'm always lonely at home, its just me and my mom....?!


Question: I'm always lonely at home, its just me and my mom....?
We have a pretty decent sized house, i live in the basement and my mom lives upstairs. I don't really like to be around her cuz she drives me really really nuts... but I feel really lonely at my house.
I go to my friends house and theres always so many people there... sometimes i like to go and just talk to my friends' brothers just because its someone else to talk to. I like being at their houses, theres always so many people around. but its not that way at my house. :(
sometimes I wish I had someone that would come live with me. I'm only 17 and i'm that lonely at home.
Does anyone know how I feel? and how I can feel less lonely? or anything i can do!?!? any advice helps, please & thank you.

Answers:

Well. Okay. You feel comfortable at your friend's place at home not so much. I get it. But I flash on the saying "be careful what you wish for you might get it". That's because personal time - time by yourself is valuable - and right now you might be underestimating how valuable it is.

Need to practice a musical instrument? Other people may get tired of listening to you practice. Need time to read a book? You got it. Wanna post on Answers. No problem. Want to take your CC studies to a hirer level and shoot for As? You got it? Want to watch porn? Nevermind - but you can see you need privacy sometimes. Also - while you might enjoy comfortable times at your buds house - what do you really get out of it? Good times. Some 420. That doesn't compare to the self confidence of being a musician - of having As - of having read good books - of having study habits - of not wanting for 420 or experiment with sex.

I'm not saying being lonely is great. I'm just pointing out that if you had what you think you want you'd have a whole new set of problems. That's the way life is.

Having said that - your first goal is to be honest with yourself about how lonely you are.

Okay. So you met some lesbians and a few of the young guys are pestering you about sex. Making matters worse might be the fact that you're majoring in Psych, Communications, or even Business where women outnumber men. Nothing I'd say can change any of that - but thousands of gals face the same issues and they don't worry about how lonely they are.

Probably the difference between them and you is that they are goal oriented - and they've given up on looking for the magical boyfriend. When pestered for sex they use their experience: act like you're really intelligent and be really intelligent and that'll make 'em stop talking about sex right away. Guys have another side - one that longs for a magical girl who can do more than just look pretty. Guys want gals who can do stuff and challenge them. Or rather - the kind of guy that would make you happy is that way. So what you need to do is bring it together - use the time to yourself to bring more brains - more humor - more insight - more money-making potential to the table so you can get a REAL boy friend when you're about 25. And nabb a guy with an education that wants to start a family.

Okay. You love your dog. I get that your neighbors are weird. That's normal. Everyone loves a great pet.

Regarding your desire to die... Remember that wanting to die is selfish. Who the **** are you to go around like "oh I feel so sad blah blah blah". If you really died you'd totally mess up the life of your mom and your friends - and obviously yourself. Yeah YOU. Look. You're 17 and you have to intelligence to write up a post on Answers that's fairly well written. Give yourself a ***n break!!! You're a gal with lots of potential and shut up about dying. Don't even let yourself go there. it's a waste of energy. And oh BTW - 17 is a real tough age. Around age 24 life gets a lot lot easier.



You're still really young, but there are things you can do to not be lonely. Go to the YMCA, young boys and girls clubs, your school has a lot of activities, even if it seems like you might not enjoy after school activities, try, you meet lots of other people who have things in common with you. You gotta stay busy, it will open up a whole new world for you.



Open a larger circle of friends of all different interests and backgrounds. Why don't you invite friends to your house? Or start a new outside activity to keep you socially connected. Smile at everyone you pass by. Be pleasant and outgoing and you should have more friends than you can handle.



live with me!!!! im lonely to and its just me and my mom but she always has work so im alone all the time!!!!



you may want to consider getting a pet! Pet's are very fun and loving and can keep you from being lonesome!

Me



Just wait until you live in a dorm! :D chin up sweety



you sound so very sad ...=(



you feel lonely because you want to be.
You live just once, and life is a chain of experiences, if you are experiencing a solitude and feeling lonely, it's because that is the experience you are into right now, but the key to change that is to find the way out.
I can say the experience to be happy and smile is the best one, but it's the hardest one.
How you can reach that? building that chain, the chain that will end with a partial happiness.
And I say partial because nothing is forever and the best thing in life, like happiness is not too long but it's worth it to work for it.
I haven't reach it yet but I'm trying to built that chain that will take me there.
Look for real friends, for people who can listen to you and not just the crowded, not just ordinary people, look for 2 or 3 people who can help your soul to be stronger and better, and make you humble and better person.
Say hi to your mom
Good luck

myself




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