My life sucks right now. Help & Advice?!
Question: My life sucks right now. Help & Advice?
My life is just really messy. At school, feel like nobody cares about me. I get ignored &i hate it.
Everything bad started around a year ago, may of sophomore year.I fought with a friend of mine & she started spreading rumors & making it look like I was a btch.
Short recap of the story : I was walking with her. I was getting ignored, & I asked her a few questions to see if she was listening, & she wasn't. I told her if she was going to ignore me, I'll just stop talking to her. Then she told all my other frnds how she felt so abandoned & left behind. FKING BULLSHIT.she's the type of girl that can't live without a boyfriend. She had gotten dumped then, & she was literally crying & depressed at school for two weeks.
So after I told her that I'd stop talking to her, she had told EVERYONE about it then, & I had to go explain the situation..& after school, she started SCREAMING at me. She was red, furious, & walked away without even finishing her sentence. What the hell did I do to deserve that? I got ignored first..The next day, she comes up to me & tells me that Im annoying because I worry about school a lot, that I over-react to things, & that I've changed in a bad way.
Uhh. Who was it that started screaming..? Who was the one that was seriously begging for attention when she got dumped? I understand about being sad.. but seriously? for two weeks? I would totally get over it.. Come on. It's high school.. high school relationships rarely last..
Also, how's it annoying to worry about school..? I need to be independent & get a good job & have a nice life to feed myself.. if i played around like her, I would have just ended up at the local community college, & hell no, I dont want that. & who's talking..? Dont ppl change? Do ppl expect me to be the same person ten years ago as now? Good or bad way, she doesn't really have the right to btch at me & tell me I changed, because she's fking annoying too.
I used to be a happy little girl in Freshman year, but that changed. Im not the same person anymore.
So yeah. that's the fight. After that, I just kind of drifted away from the rest of my frnds, & paying attention to more of my grades.
Nobody invites me to go out with them anymore because they figure I'd be too busy for them& i never talk to them outside of school anymore.. I feel really left out.. I confronted all of them about this, but nothing changed..I guess they don't care about me..
Im currently taking 5 AP classes, & one regular class. I got a 4.5 gpa last semester. I know I tend to put things off, but I really dont get sleep. I dont want to give a fk anymore. Junior year is seriously giving me so much stress. I know I shouldn't let it get over me.. I just feel overwhelemed by stress & I dont know how to cope with it.
I also haven't been paying attention to the way I dress. Im just having a really hard time accepting myself as who I am..Makeup seems good, but I have no time to put on that kind of stuff.
As for my family, it's full of problems. My mom is bipolar every single day, my dad is just education obsessed(Im from an Asian family), & he gets so pissed at me when Im trying to write an email to my best friend who happens to live in Maryland, where I used to live before, & oh, just now, he walked in & started yelling at me for not working. My younger brother has absolutely no respect towards me. He wouldn't curse at me or flip me off when my parents are in the house, but when they're out, he calls me a "fking btch" & walks around flipping me off. He has serious anger issues. When he gets angry, he would grab my stuff & throw it down on the ground or the wall, & start screaming & yelling. One time, he punched my wall so hard, it made a dent. He would also slam the door & start screaming & cry in his room. By the way, he's thirteen years old. Four months after, he'll be a freshman in high school. I really dont want to attend the same school as him... & you know what kind of things he gets mad over? not being able to play games because Im either studying on the computer, or he'd just start bothering ME, & then I get mad at him. He has thrown a ruler at my face, & I've bruised my eye once.
Everyone expects so much of me. Everyone seriously expects me to be happy-go-lucky, understand & help with everyone else's ****, get good grades, & be more patient.
I just can't do it anymore. Im not going to kill myself.. =___= but idk. Any kind of advice would be great.Im losing a lot of hair & this stress is giving me bad skin.. I know for a fact that Im in a depression right now... What should I do to cope
Answers:
ok, this is going to be a very long answer
i know exactly what you're going through. i'm in my last year of gcse (high school basically) and i remember my equivilent of freashman year.
i used to be immensily angry with serious anger problems. i was depressed and anti-social. it got so bad one time i to punched a wall. it seriously hurt.
my friends also ignored me and lost touch. as for your friend (the one that screamed at you) i say forget her, or let her. she is only doing it to get extra attention. once she sees that it isn't working or you aren't affected then she will most likely stop. if she doesn't then you have to do the one thing that you most likely don't want to do: sit down and talk to her. and yes, people change, it's a part of life, and if she can't deal with it, then maybe you shouldn't be friends with her anymore.
from my own personal experience, there were a group of guys that would not stop picking on me, and it used to get me so angry, but once i stopped showing how angry i got, they eventually stopped.
it's good to be concerened for your grades. many people, especially in high school are afraid of being classed as a nerd for having good grades, or it's cool to fail. but it is just the oppisite. high school is a very important part of school, so for once, it might be alright to be classed as a nerd. means you'll get a better job then them. also, nerds are actually the coolest people to hang out with because they also understand what you are going through.
yes your social life may have decreased because people think that you are too busy, but instead of waiting for an invitation, maybe you could arrange an outing. that's what i did, i started to arrange things instead of waiting to be invited out. your social life will improve (i think, well mine did) and sometimes, it's alright to focus on other things rather then apperence. people should accept you for who you are, not what they expect you to be. you shouldn't have to change yourself to make friends, just be you
as for your family, i understand a little. i live in singapore and i know a lot of asian families and they go through the same thing as you. parents put a lot of pressure on their kids so you aren't alone. maybe you should talk to your dad, and tell him that you need to relax sometimes instead of always working and studying.
as for your younger brother, i can see where he's coming from. sorry to take his side, but i too am a younger sibling and it really pisses me off when my older sis tries to control me or tells me what to do. because of his anger, i would actually suggest (even though it may be the last thing you actually want him to do) signing him up for a boxing club. when i started to get angry, i got a personal trainer and i see him twice a week and it really drains me of my anger. a punching bag also helps.
it may also help you with your stress. working out is a great way to lose stress and it really works for me. also to deal with your stress, i have one thing to say: DON'T BOTTLE IT AWAY!!!!
i did that and about a week before my mock exams i got a test back. i didn't do to well on it. normally i wouldn't get upset but then everything hit me and i broke down in tears (which i never do). so my advice is to go and see a counciller. it may seem like a last resort but they really can help you with techniques and advice. i saw one last year and calmed down a lot and still use them to get rid of stress. they really can help you deal with these sorts of things.
i would also suggest finding a past time that you enjoy most. for example the way i calm down is writing stories or writing a diary entry. just writing anything calms me down and i forget about anything. even if you aren't creative, you could start a diary. i know it sounds girly and immature, but it really helped me. also, talk to your teachers about allowing you to do the past time in class if you feel stressed or like it's too much. teachers are always there to help, no matter how strict they seem.
i know it is a long answer, but i hope you found some of it useful at least. the one thing to remember is that there are lots of people going through the same thing that you are, so it's just finding the best method for you.
hope this all helps!
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I know how you feel. When I was around that age I also felt like my life was sucking but it only got better after I started to be real cool with my family. Cause once you get older you will be like " wow, was I really like that?" You're just going through a phase. It will all get better soon. And for school just try to do your best and don't let nobody get you down. And sometimes your friends don't say who they really are, you should know who your true friends are.
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