I miss my (old) bestfriend SO f*cking much!?!


Question: I miss my (old) bestfriend SO f*cking much!?
We don't talk anymore except for simple hi's in the hallway and I miss her a lot. It was my fault for pushing her away, but now I want her back. Is that being selfish? I just never missed anyone like this. I've lost a lot of friends before, but it hasn't phased me. Losing her has taken a great tole on me though. :( I just miss her so much. I used to push her away because I felt as if I was a burden to her and that she'd rather hang out with other people (she had one friend to me who she seemed to like better than me. And for some reason that really hurt me...). however we always shared good moments and had a strong friendship. Like we would do everything together, and she would always be like "I'll come with you" if I said I had to go somewhere... And we had A LOT of inside jokes. :) And we had so much in common and got along so well. A lot of people in my grade are really shallow and superficial, but she wasn't and that's why I felt she was so different. We could actually have meaningful conversations and not care about the normal teenage girl stuff. But I pushed her away by constantly hanging out with other friends, and denying her when she asked to hang out with me after school (ex: I don't like shopping, so i don't want to go). I awlays had some excuse. I also didn't want to be seen as clingy so that's why I would hang out with other people because I felt that she might of thought of me as some loser or that she didn't want to hang out with me, but was just too nice to say so. :( I feel so bad, I brought this on myself, I know. I'm an idiot. I just thought she would be happier with other friends. Now I see her hanging out with her other friends and I wish it were me hanging out with her. :( I don't know if she seems happier, but she might be. I just miss talking to her. I was thinking about messaging her on MSN and saying something "OMG. I haven't talked to you in awhile" or going up to her when she's alone and saying that to see what she says... And to see if she might miss me too. :( I just feel so bad. I really miss hanging out with her. :( I don't know. I'm so confused. Do you think my suspicions might have been right or was I just too paranoid? I normally do this; push people away. but I just want her back. I can't move on... I can't stop thinking about her. OMG. It's like a f*cking break up or something. What should I do? Should I just leave her alone and let her be happy without me to deal with?

Answers:

She probably feels hurt and confused that you pushed her away. You should txt her or message her. Just tell her the truth, you really miss her. Tell her that even though you know its kind of silly that you felt you were bringing her down, its the truth and that's why you pushed her away. Try to make it kind of light hearted. Suggest that you guys should hang out and go to the movies. That way you don't have to get into a big converstaion about it when you hang out, you'll just be watching the movie and enjoy each others company, and get back into the structure of hanging out. Save the big converstaion (if you want to have one) for when you guys are close again.



Go talk to her and reminisce about your past and then say that you would like to chill like old times. Simple.




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