what about your friends?!


Question: What about your friends?
I'm going through a rough patch here in life right now.
My best friend died back in August. We were best friends for 26 years. I seem to mourn her more and more every day. I feel so alone. I don't have any family. She was like a sister to me.

I have people I talk to and I'm friendly and outgoing with tons of hobbies. But it started to dawn on me that I'm the one making the effort. At work, I go around and talk to friends there, ask how their weekends were, ask them out to lunch, etc. I've even had some over to my house for dinner. So...I decided that I was going to stop doing that and see if the came to me, see if they ever asked me out to lunch. It's been two weeks. Guess what? You got it. Most of my friends at work have not even stopped by my cube to say hi. That really hurts. I don't know what to do.

I'm trying to make new friends at church. It's not easy. I know my best friend cannot ever be replaced. Maybe I should find a support group. I'm very down. If you have any ideas or thoughts that are kind, please share.
Thank you.

Answers:

I feel so bad for you loss!! I can't imagine what you are going through! and you are very brave to keep going.
I know how you feel about seeming like you are doing all the work in friendships I feel the same way with a lot of my friends. I tried to do the same test you are but I couldn't do it. I got to lonely and searched them out.
Never let your friend go... never forget her..... but don't be afraid to embrace new people. Just keep trying.. when you find someone you click with you will know it... just take your time..
I wish you luck.. and if you want to message me and talk about anything feel free!



Sometimes in life you won't have anyone to rely on or spend time with. Here you describe a situation where you gave it your all and went by unnoticed. Such a thing is unfair, but it's not wrong. When you learn to love yourself, you become your own best friend and have no need for others. Please learn this because so many learn it when it's much too late.




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