Please help me, I cannot bear this anymore.?!


Question: Please help me, I cannot bear this anymore.?
I want to kill myself, and I have wanted to for a few years now. However, I am not depressed, I'm angry. It is because of this anger that I want to kill myself, not as an escape, but as a way to protect the ones I love. I know that if I cannot find a way to control my anger, I will end up hurting, possibly killing, someone that I care about, and I cannot afford to let that happen. My anger has already landed one person in the hospital (they decided to show how tough they were by hitting me, and I lost it. Long story short, they were a hair's breadth away from death when I was finally pulled off of them) Does anyone have any advice on what I can do to help better control my anger? If it keeps going like this, I will have no choice but to either move away from society entirely or kill myself, and I don't like either option.

Answers:

First of all, being a recluse, moving away from society is somewhat a good answer. Move away from those who make you angry, the situations, and environments. Every one I know has been depressed one time or another.

Secondly, behavior, I'm sorry many may disagree, is a choice. Not being able to control yourself, or saying that you can't angers me, quit being so self-centered (killing yourself, in spite of your disclaimer is just another, rather extreme, self-centric type of behavior)

These are all decisions you can make. Remember, anger in and of itself is no excuse it is just a rationalization on your part to act out.

1. Take a break or simply relax by counting to 10 or something..
2. Decision two, just walk away.
3. You're not the center of every ones universe, so calm down .Once you're calm, express your point of view.
4. Get some exercise besides screaming and punching someone in the nose.
5. Since you asked this question you must feel some regret for your past actions, which is a good thing. Usually anger doe not even address the real problem.
6. Stick to the issue at hand not some past history of past wrongs.
7. Use personal 'I' statements when addressing the problem. This will help you to avoid making accusations which can make the other person also angry.
8. Don't hold grudges. For at least two reasons: Do you really want the person you are angry with to hold such power over you and thereby, control your life? Think about it. If you can forgive the other person, it will help you both. It's not realistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want.
9. Again, I say, use humor (without sarcasm) to release tensions. Lightening up can help diffuse tension.
10. Practice relaxation skills to help you just take it easy. Listen to some music, write in a journal (I had a friend with some anger management problems who wrote a book called Drunken Duck although only semi-autobiographical, helped him understand his own childhood and anger. Believe me, if you had run into him in high school, you may not have had to commit suicide he would have helped you right along. He is "almost" mellow now. You can also meditate. Mediation can control your breathing, thought processes and anger. So diffuse your anger by other pursuits.

Now for some tough love, finally, don't consider that everything is about you. Get over yourself, not every body's world revolves around you. Think about it or how about, for a change, think about others.



Well. I assume that u don't want mental help cause if u did, u woulda gotten it by now.

So the only thing is that u can try to remove yourself from what's makin u mad. I have very very bad anger issues also and when Im arguing with my friends or family, and I just walk awy without another word...they know that if they fear for thier safety they'll leave me alone.



Maybe you should get some professional help. Anger management? Don't kill yourself. Don't you think your loved ones will hurt with your gone? Talk to a family member talk to to someone. Death is not the answer. Get a toy or pillow and punch it instead. Don't commit suicide.



well anger management might help, therapy - its good that you don't like the option of killing yourself - try calling some of the different hotlines, those tend to help lots of people



Pray



You should google for anger management group/hotline in your area. If none are available, there are many helpful tips to be found online on anger management. Also, if there is an adult you can trust, please talk to them about this issue. School counselor, teacher, etc. (I'm not sure if this is applicable to you, not knowing your age and if you're still in school). One good thing is that you are aware of the problem, and that you want to change. That's a big part of the battle. Some therapy in general might also help, as there might be deeper issues causing your anger. Hope you find some help, suicide is not the answer... Good luck, and take care




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