PSYCHOLOGY Majors can you analyze these statements?!


Question: PSYCHOLOGY Majors can you analyze these statements?
I lasted 5 day (with out masturbating) and yet no girlfriend...(In the past when i fasted masturbation for a few days i end up with a date) Which means i am not in control of my relationship, no matter how i bargain with God its not up to me on who i date. I keep looking at pictures and i keep reliving scenarios in my head. I keep reliving my past , and i keep fantasizing of what could have been. I keep giving myself false hope ,and i keep making these false realities. In the end it only hurts me , but at lease i can prepare for the unexpected.

Why do i keep fantasizing and i keep reliving these moments. With my current crushes i do the same. Why do i crave affection. Why do i crave being in a relationship, but when i am in a relationship i am not happy?

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Detailed answers are appreciated thanks guys!

Answers:

your not going after quality..and simply put, a woman that treats you good, a woman you can treat good..you think that something, is better than nothing, and the something that you have is meaningless unless you have the friendship, and the love that is what it takes to make a good relationship work..and the what if's, and the could have been's, are just a way for you to have learned what these relationships were about, and what things you need to fix about yourself, or not, or that it reinforces you to know that what you want is someone that will treat you good..and you know what it takes to treat someone good..seeking the meaning of truth in relationships, and staying true to yourself in a good way, will help you take a little more patience to find what your looking for, rather than take what you get, and it not mean anything, right?



Sorry, God doesn't exist solely to get you laid.



Sounds like obsessive thoughts followed by compulsive actions. Sex addiction. You just want to feel good, but you need to feel good alone, in life. You need to be honest with yourself and others. You would benefit from counseling, clergy or psych. Try a Sex Addicts Anonymous meeting, being around people like yourself is without parallel. They know exactly how you feel, and how you act, are going to act and end up in the same crappy situation, all over again. This is basically the definition of insanity, doing something repeatedly and expecting a different result. You know this already. You are going to be fine if you make the effort to change, with the help of others it's not only possible, it's simple, not easy. Life's not about how you feel, it's about what you can do. To get something you've never had you're going to do something you've never done.



Well, let's stray from religion...psychology has nothing to do with that. You are confused with emotions. Blending psychological needs are very commen, like say you become hungry when you are bored.
In your case, you seek love when you are sexually raging. This is a mistake, and your fantasies are ruling your present realationships. Don't tie in and connect your fantasies with present memories, and don't deny yourself sexual gratification. If you still want to be with a (certain) girl after you have relieved yourself (masturbation), then this is could be serious relationship at last, otherwise you're only fantasizing and wanting only sexual things with the girl, later finding yourself unhappy. You want to be thinking without those hormones causing you to become sexually aroused constantly. Masturbation is healthy, keep yourself under control, you're human!
Fantasizing about past girls could mean your haven't emotionally ended your past relationships, perhaps you still feel connected with them instead of present girls. You need to end this, let them go, call up and talk with past girlfriends to close the relationship you had, this could eat away at you if you don't. You need closures for new beginnings! Best wishes.

I think about Psychology every single day, it's my love. And I've studied in classes.



What is this "bargaining with God" stuff? You're not supposed to masturbate anyways; you're supposed to have control over yourself. So it's not as if God is obligated to give you a date for not doing something that you shouldn't be doing in the first place.

Psychologically speaking, you are experiencing what is known as the Law of Effect, which states that a pleasurable experience is likely to be repeated (and vice versa: if an experience is painful, it is not likely to be repeated again). Sex or masturbation has a pleasurable sensation attached to it, thus your brain wants more of it. Do you see now why it's a good idea to wait until marriage?

Thus the urges will continue, BUT you can control them and the urges will be less and less strong after you learn to control yourself. It will be a classic case of using the big head to control the little head. Also, it would be a good idea to date wisely. I'm assuming you are religious since you speak of God, thus it is beneficial to date a girl who shares your religious convictions. That way there won't be conflicting interests regarding things like sex (people who don't share such religious convictions will be more open to and expectant of sex in the relationship). A devout Christian girl, for instance, would want to wait until marriage.

To sum it all up: Learn to control urges; date girls who share your religious convictions; and don't blame God if you don't get a date, especially if you're doing things you should not be doing.

Take care.

Majoring in Psychology




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