Someone help me please i am suffering from depression.?!


Question: Someone help me please i am suffering from depression.?
I am suffering from depression and no one listens to me. I am being ignored. I cry out for help all the time. No one gives me the chance to explain how i feel. I have been mentally torchered by my brother for years and he makes me feel like my life is pointless. He makes me feel like the size of a peanut. He is always calling me bad names and saying to me that i am fat and ugly and all. I cannot take this pain any more. I sit in my bedroom all of the time just to get away from him and the person who is supposed to be my boy friend never understands what i feel and i can't get closer to my boy friend because i have issues with my weight. I can't enjoy any thing with him and i am pushing him away from me and making him search for other girls and he would rather be sitting on this site than talk to me and help. I feel alone. I don't want to have friends any more because of the way i was treated by them in the past i cannot trust any one but the only person who i really trust is my boy friend but he always doubts me and never believes any thing i say to him and some times i get drunk and become very abusive and say things that i didn't mean to say. Even when i tell him some thing serious he doesn't listen to me. He wants me to change my habbits, e.i smoking. I will stop smoking but i want to focus on losing my weight first. I feel like no one wants to help me and no one can hear my voice. I feel grossly ignored by others. I used to go to college and work too but since 2 years i have been doing nothing and it is not easy like 1,2,3 to find work again but i am trying and i gain nothing all of the time. If i can get a placement in college i will go there. I want to change my life style.

My weight is 252 Pounds and my height is only 5.3.
I am female, Age 23.

Can some help me please? I need to know how i can lose weight as that is my biggest priority and i will not be happy til i have lost weight. I have been crying for one hour and my eyes hurt so much. I was crying yesterday too but i didn't tell any one because i can't confide in any one other than my boy friend but now he is not listening to me. I take my anger and fruastration on him all of the time and he some times wonders why my mood changes but IF he listened to me properly then he would understand and i don't know the day when he will understand me and believe in me. I can't sleep and i was prescribed sleeping tablets but i am too afraid to take them i am also taking anti depresents but they are not helping much.

What can i do?

I WANT MY VOICE TO BE HEARD AND MY BOY FRIEND IS THE ONLY CLOSEST AND NEAREST THING TO ME AND I AM SLOWLY DESTROYING EVERY THING THAT WE HAVE.

Answers:

Well this is definitely a big pill to swallow. And I do understand why you feel depressed. Because of PCOS, I have been battling a weight issue for a couple of years, and it's very difficult. This is what I have done to lose weight and it's very effective (when I stick to it, that is). If you stick to it religiously, it's also very fast. My doctor recommended it to me and I was losing up to 10lbs a week. I am not going to lie, it's VERY DIFFICULT to stick to, but nothing that is worth anything is EASY. I don't believe in pill diets or anything that you can buy at a gas station or on TV. They just don't work, and are not healthy. With that being said: YOGA DIET. You can Google it for more information, but I will give you a basic run-down. First, eat ONLY fresh Fruit in the morning (before noon). I love to buy fresh fruit and make my own fruit salads or smoothies (Literally just ice, one banana, a big handful of strawberries, and about 6oz of Non-fat vanilla yogurt). You can eat as much fruit as you want. No limits. Eat when you are hungry. Second, in the afternoon only eat fresh RAW Veggies and a lean protien (cooked of course). You can use chicken, fish, or beans. Nothing fried though. A good measurement to start with is to only eat what will fit into the palms of your hands when you cup them together. Veggies are also unlimited. Eat them whenever you are hungry. Dark green veggies are the best way to go. You CAN have nuts as a snack. Try and avoid dairy and especially red meat! Also, you want to avoid alcohol. Not only does it cause weight gain, but it is a total depressant. It's not going to make you feel any better. It will also be good for your relationship. Do the same thing as you did for lunch, for dinner. And that's basically it. You don't need to go kill yourself working out at the gym. Just try to walk for about 30mins a day or every other day. Like I said, not easy, but VERY effective. I know that feeling "fat" can really bring down your self-esteem. And it's certainly not helpful that the people in your life are not supportive.

Now with all of that out of the way. Let's get to your relationship. You really need to sit down and tell your boyfriend that you feel that he really isn't understanding your problems. Be 100% honest about everything. Including how you feel about your weight and that you know that you are pushing him away because of it. Let him know that you are going to try and do something to improve yourself and that you REALLY need his support. Hopefully, that will better inform him of your feelings and help him to give you support during this time.

As far as your brother goes, well he's your brother. That's what they do. I have 2 of them. They always picked on me, but I learned that they do love me and will be there for me if I need them. Try being honest with him as well. Let him know that his teasing is really getting to you. You will be surprised, most of the time they stop. He may not know that he's hurting your feelings so badly.

Anyways, I do hope this helps you. Good luck, and best wishes dear. :)



spend more time just contemplating life and the people who value you.



get a dog and get group therapy (ask your local hospital)



this is a vry bad time for u, well if u go on hating ur life so much u will be in a bad state for a long time.
NOW HERE IS WHAT U NEED TO DO :
1.start something new like go on a diet , start an exercise regimen , take a book n start writing a journal
2.COMMIT TO STEP 1, DO WHAT EVER IT TAKES TO COMPLETE IT, ENJOY COMPLETING IT
3.Talk to affirmative people,like people who fill in positive thoughts,ppl who support ur ideas n remember do not be with ppl who contradict ur ideas n fill in bad thoughts n remember to only think positively
4.be honest to yourself, care about the people around u who really matter u and who will be there for u always
5.think of things which bring in positive feelings
6.'get out' come out go for a walk
7.stop thinkin about the people who ve hurt u n stay away from them
8.remember its your life n no one can take anything from you
if u end up doin this u will -lose weight
-feel great
-u will be the happiest person in the world



don't depend on others for love.they would ignore you if you don't love yrself. start loving yourself.you are getting away from your boyfriend but actually you don't want him to go. why don't you get stronger and tell him the reason . if he loves you he won't leave you.tell him you are frustrated coz of yr weight n want to lose it.
walk as much as u can.start doing things you love to do.you better ignore people till u reach yr goal weight. try to make yrself happy.keep youself busy mentally and physically.



hey jamie, 1st of all ur bf cn nt give u attention due 2 he doesnt luv u , bcoz 1 who luv sm1 is always wid him/her in any stage , 2nd find a small job e g in a resturant if u cn do then , surely u'l feel better & busy bcoz bussyness is only the way for u to keep off all the mishappinings & + its will also help u 2 reduce ur weight , i am very sure that u'l c 2 my advice & will overcm wid a gud result , all the best take care




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