Love dreams causing depression. 10 points to the best answer?!

This is freaky.. Everything you've described including age and height is the same (well actually +1 to the age and inches in height) and I'm also Ben.

Depression is scary because it takes control of you and then uses you against yourself until it becomes an unstoppable force. It's especially difficult when your depression stems (at least partially) from loneliness, because then you are alone to fight it.

There are a couple of things you can do. One is to get more involved with friends. I don't know about you, but a while ago I didn't really interact with my friends much. When I got really depressed I decided I should make a bigger effort to be with my friends more. If it doesn't fill the empty space then it at least keeps you away from the depression and under the watch of someone else.

Another thing is to find something to distract you. For me that is drawing, making music (FL Studio), writing, listing movies I should see and watching them all. When you feel really sad, even something less productive like a video game is better than sitting and letting something eat at you.

This is all I can say about combating depression. If it doesn't work for you or doesn't stop your dreams from bringing back sadness, then the answer to your question probably doesn't exist. There is no way depression can be agreeable, only manageable. Good luck, don't give up.

Both my parents deprived me of emotional expression. Either they ignored my emotions or punished me for them. I think your dreams are about what your parents never allowed you; emotional intimacy. If you can afford psychoanalysis go for it, it will help you focus on breaking the roadblocks to achieving emotional intimacy with others.

Experience and reading.

read?, do sports, have some goals for your life, stablish goals.
I'm engineer, I love what I do but at the same time I spend my time helping others and learning more and more, girls are not my priority right now and I don't know when it will be.
At least my mind is occupied right now in other things, you know

ben, be strong, get fit, swim or run daily early nights, eat healthy, dont be afraid to tell people how your feeling, i get depressed really bad, positive thorts are my best tool, when im thinking bad thorts i try snap myself out by reminding myself to be positive, tough age mate, it will get better trust me, just talk talk talk, to someone you know you trust, take care, big future ahead for you, remember that

I would just go on and on until you find your peace of mind. Please remember that the more you think the more problems will turn into nightmares so the best thing is to avoid getting drunk and try to trlax until you faint. dont turn your life so bad that you cant help but feel insane or disturbethe world. please be aware of the metaphysics

I need more from you.

16 years old... male?

What kind of other problems? Rejection from peers?

How is your relationship with your family?

I was once 14 years old and I was very rejected by my peers. I was really depressed too and my family wasnt much of a support system for going to for problems. I felt very alone.

I didnt have access to internet and my family didnt believe in therapy, and I have suffered a lot over the years because of it. I was unable to recognize "good people" and I would be avoidant of all relationships except for 2. both were abusive in every way. I felt trapped to them because I had no one else who cared... even though they really didnt either at least after the violence they were there at the end of the day and would apologize for it.

So trust me... you just dont grow out of it... if it's not fixed you will end up in a similar fate. Not everyone is meant to be with someone. As humans we are social, so in keeping close relationships with friends or family we are essentially doing the same thing. I think that if you can get help for this now you will one day be able to give a "good person" a chance. I'm 26 been married once have two great children and an abusive ex husband... after this I too say that I dont want to be in an emotional relationship with anyone else ever again because my attention needs to be focused on my children. I have been abused to the point of not trusting people.

Also keep this in mind (a friend sent it to me) An Intelligent woman (man would work here too) would rather be single than to be cheated on, lied to, and abused.

Plus your young... enjoy your youth... dont get wrapped up in relationships now... they will impare your judgment. It's better to wait until you know who you are and what your direction in life will be.

Dont be depressed and always think of the bright side of things. Like ur future how your going to meet a guy one day and get married and not be alone anymore dont think that you alone no one is ever alone you have family and friends that im sure care alot about you and love you so fight the depression and be happy and i bet those dreams are signs of good things like you really falling in love. and fyi iim not doing this for the 10 points i really dont care about points in just here to help people with there problems. So be positive and happy. Hope i helpes and made you feel better.

Ben I think you might be dreaming of the love you'd like to experience or encounter. O do not think just because you feel this way you should go date right away because the relationship might fall short from you expect and that will really mess you up. Don't accept the idea od alone because you just never know what might happen. You never know who you'll meet you never know who you will unexpectedly start falling for. And remember they are just dreams. I understand that it's hard dreaming one thing and then facing reality and seeing it's not how it was in your dream. Allow yourself into meeting people so you can get over the idea that you could potentially be with someone. Goodluck

Ps I completely understand. I had dreams of being with my gf and I'd wake up depressed Ib the middle of the night all summer bc she was on vacation and I'd cry just bc the dreams were making it soo hard to live reality. I felt so lonely and abandoned after the dreams. :(