Do you think therapy is needed?!
Question: Do you think therapy is needed?
I've been told by my dad time and time again that therapy is "stupid" and not needed.
My mom thinks differently.
So which is it?
I feel like my dad has completely ruined me. I know that there's "an age of accountability" and all, but he's truly a hypocrite. I was raised Christian.... gee. What a great guy, huh? Beating his kids and treating them like burdens all while attending church every sunday. My relationship with him has suffered greatly over the years. He and I are very different and he brings out the absolute worst in me. I become this horrible b***h when I'm exposed to him.
And my mom just pops in and out of my life as she pleases. Never taking full responsibility for the fact that she's got kids. Just living her life the way she wants.
What do I do, exactly? It's a lot deeper than it seems, and I'm hurting on the inside pretty badly.
Answers:
If I were you, I'd try therapy and decide for yourself whether it is "stupid and not needed".
I would start seeing a therapist. Eventually, its about forgiving your past (which doesn't mean accepting them into your life.) What you need to do is be happy with who you are, and forgive them for being ultra-terrible parents because they've made you the person you are today (again, something you need to turn around into something you're happy about - they made you strong, they made you determined, etc./whatever.)
Doing that on your own though, probably not going to happen or you would have done it already.
i would like to suggest ,having been there, that you seek talk therapy. it will give you a chance to talk about what happened to you and help you get it out of your system and help you to learn to deal with your present life. i see a psychologist on a regular basis and he has been a big help to me. i feel that talk therapy can help you also.
been in your shoes.
Do you really trust your Dad's judgment when it comes to mental health? You don't say how old you are but if you are in school start with your school counselor. If you are older and have insurance use the insurance co to help you find a mental help professional. Even if the insurance is in your dad's name they can't tell them what you say. You can also call your local health dept. for a referral. Go and get rid of some of that anger and pain. Good luck, you are not alone.
I'm not surprised your father thinks therapy is "stupid"- but he doesn't seem to have treated you very well anyway. You already seem pretty open to talking about what you've gone through- therapy could help you work through some of your experiences, looking at it from different angles, and helping you to develop tools to move beyond the hurt.
There are also other ways to deal with difficult things in life- you may have already found some: music, exercise, friends, working hard at something that really matters to you...