Why am I so horrible to myself?!


Question: Why am I so horrible to myself?
I look in the mirror, and Always find flaws I think Im a monster, awkward and ugly and disgusting! I dont think I will ever deserve to fall in love and never be liked, I dont think i deserve friends, and Even in my dreams, I don't even dream about prince charmings or whatever, I've actually dream't that someone smiled at me in a dream, then it turned out they where smiling at the person behind me
I dont think Im good enough at ANYTHING Im weird and odd and horrible!
I Feel so uncomfortable down there, and feel dirty if a wear makeup, and have to wear baggy clothes, I'm so uncomfortable around guys/boys and only feel safe around females I hate everything about myself sometimes, and others I'm fine.
I'm lucky, I know I am, And i do try to remember that.

I've never been abused/sexually assaulted as far as I know, Though I was taken out of nursery when i was young because I had finger bruises on my back, and Would cry each morning and night.
I've suffered depression, and bullying, when I was seven, My mum and dad got divorced, they where yelling there in front of me, I was crying at their feet, then he left and abandoned us, We weren't good enough for us, He never loved us. there isn't a time in my life i haven't been called a zombie, and albino because of my fair hair and complexion. Ugly is how I see myself now.

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I doubt you are as ugly as you think you are. Most people are considered ugly without makeup and enhancements. We are taught that beauty is nothing less than perfection. It's not true!!!



It's clear you have self confidence issues, and the bullying and trauma of your parents divorce has added to these issues.

You need to start believing in yourself and seeing the positives, rather than negatives of who you are.

Depression is a mental illness and is not simply 'the blues' - we all get down now and then, but if you are clinically depressed, you need professional help.



take a better look in the mirror cuz you're not ugly.

force yourself to look into the mirror until you like something. sometimes your look needs some getting used to. if u have pimple/scars or whatever just rememeber that they're temporary.

you'll be surpirsed some hot girls were actually ugly ducklings who blossomed into swans.



Negative thoughts cause negative feelings. Make a list of positive affirmations and review them daily. Lose weight and exercise more. Get involved in a church group.



You have insecurities just like any other teenage girl, but if you feel that bad you should talk to someone TRUSTWORTHY.

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It is so true that we sometimes would never ever treat another human being the way we treat our self at times , we can be so hard on our self .
I am no expert but you sem to have so much guilt and blame on your young shoulders as a result from your life's hard experiences , all i feel so misplaced and does not even belong to you but here you are carrying it letting it kick the s**t out of your self esteem and confidence .
Please make an appointment to see your Doctor and ask them to refer you to a counselor who you can Take you through your issues with .
Those ignorant people who are calling you names are in my opinion very envious of you , think about it, how many girls.. women and men dye their hair Blonde and have to pay a fortune to keep it maintained ! and here you are all natural ! hope this as been of some help to you mags



I assume you live alone with your mother? You should talk to her and tell her how you feel, or maybe a sibling. They will probably know how you're feeling since they've been with you through all this. I know it sounds stupid but you do need to start accepting yourself otherwise you'll never feel happy. Maybe you should save up some money and go on a shopping spree with some girlfriends, they'll help you find some nice clothes and boost your confidence. About the comments from other people, ignore it, people who say things like that are often insecure themselves. In fact most girls are insecure about something. Nobody is perfect.




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