People keep telling me to toughen up?!
Question: People keep telling me to toughen up?
People tell me I need to change and become harder, to toughen up. Like when people say bad things to me, I'm told I should say something bad right back to them.
I'm having a hard time with this. The world and the people around me want me to be a bulldog, to be insensitive, to hide my emotions, to not get upset when things bother me, to shrug things off. I can see how this would be healthy. But I'm afraid I'll never meet people who will accept me for who I am -- a person who really cares about not hurting others, a person who doesn't just walk around with a stone face, a person who loves to laugh and smile
Answers:
Dancing Lady, I am GLAD that you are sensitive. We need more polite, caring people in this world. And yes, I think that you will eventually find someone like you. It may take some time but it is worth the wait. A good place to look is in churches (if you are Christian). In the meantime, look up Psalm 34:18 in your Bible; I find it very encouraging.
Why do you have to change to make other people happy. There is nothing wrong with caring and not being a bully. Of course we all would like to Stand up for ourselves and what we believe in. Sometimes we do have to stand up for ourselves but we do not have to be cruel and nasty to others just to prove a point or to show other that we can be tuff. Hang in there. People respect those that show respect.
not everyone has this ability to treat people with respect and to feel other's feeling. but u have it...
and its a good thing...
but at the same time if ur not wrong and someone is saying bad stuff to u just say something back to them and they'll never ever dare to say anything bad to u again ever!! trust me !!
you should go to doctors immediately.
Hi,
The thing is the way you are it is all part of what makes you special! If more people showed consideration for other people like you, this world would be a better place. But you might just be able to get wiser not tougher! You can learn how not to be taken for a mug, you can learn to say no, you can learn to put yourself higher on the list of priorities. That doesn't mean being someone who is tough, mean and rude to people.
I can give you more tips and advice if you want to get back to me.
UK Personal Trainer and Life Coach