Does my girlfriend have a split personality and should I take her to get help?!
Question: Does my girlfriend have a split personality and should I take her to get help?
now here is what im trying to figure out she would brake into tears an then insult me an call me liar, brake into tears again, then insult me some more, then tell me shes scared of being alone, an that i mean more to her then i think, she had told me allot of times about her other personality but when she talked about this it only happens when someone was trying to hurt her ie her exs...though iv been nothing if loving, patient an so on...hell i even started to think i did something wrong though my best Friend assured me that i wasn't in the wrong an the way she was acting was wrong, i mean she said she "had" to push me away.
So i just want to know if this is a real split personality an if so should i try to get her help, shed also been bullied when she was in school fiercely an her i guess you could call him a step dad told her she was nothing an that she was useless allot of mental abuse..... i love this girl so much, shes my sky, stars, an light of day, an just want her to be happy, so yeah i would really appreciate the help.
Also a little bit more information, i kept saying that she had been pushing me away an she would say its not her, that i would have to wait, almost like it wasn't even her doing this to me, an her Friends could tell when she "split" into her other self, though i was never sure when it happened... i asked her after getting back together if that she just wanted to be with me to not be alone (one of her exs for example was a sexual ba....d that would pressure her into having sex with him she never gave in but almost did she told me she would of even stayed with that asshole just not to be alone, that's where the strong opinion on sex comes from), she said it started off that way but fell in love with me i believe that with all my heart if by any chance that gives more insight into this then by all means take it.
Our relationship isn't the problem but her other self is i ended up resenting her an being taken for granted because of this other self, i love her an she loves me deeply i don't want to brake up with her i didn't want to the first time an i don't want to do it so there's no us in the future, i need to help her somehow so thank you in advance.
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Wow this question Really caught my attention. Reason why: my relationship now is just like this except well... We Both have DID (Dissociative Identity Disorder) and had no idea that either one of us was the same way until we started noticing that our "others" kept erm.. interfering.. with our relationship on and off for a couple weeks.... If you really, really want to know more on how we dealt with our problems then you can email me at bamroo@live.com...
It's up to you whether to believe that she does have split personalities and also know that you can suggest that she gets help but it's still her choice. Unless she gets to be oh say, violent, THEN you can really push her into getting help.
Yes, it is possible shes bi-polar. From experience, I can also say that it is also possible she does have split personalities (or even different "souls" so to speak; different people in her mind). It's HER mind that she's dealing with and all you can offer is support on what she can do in managing it. The way her and her other(s) operate is honestly none of your business unless they choose to share that information with you. And if she's like this because of things that happened in her past then that's more of a reason for you to help as much as you can if you truly want to have her in your life.
Talk to her to see if she's willing to get help. There could be an imbalance of something in her brain that could be leveled out with meds and that may help, but there are still other complications with that. Such as: the other(s) force her to stop taking them.
Another thing... A person can be bi-polar and have some other "condition" too. So keep that in mind.
A big BIG way to help her is just to demonstrate how much you care for her (within the non-clingy limitations of course). When you're able to notice her switches, show your strength and don't let your guard down.
Multiple things might be goinh on. #1 she might like doing all of this because some girls like to have drama in their lives and like to do it intentionally. #2 she is most likely very insecure and might need a therapist/psychatrist.
Well to reassure you with one thing, she doesn't have split personalities. People who have split personalities, you'd be able to tell. Also she wouldn't even remember if she split into someone else and would have lots of memory loss. It sounds like she's depressed and doesn't know how to cope which is why she ends up insulting you. Either way, I would suggest trying to get her to talk to a doctor or psychologist.
ok,that is maybe bi-polar.she insults you a lot then other times is
completely different.Definitely get her help,you love her
with the medicine and treatment given she will be more steady
in her behavior. good luck
Sounds like it. She should see a therapist and he or she may prescribe her medicine. Sounds like there is some deep underlying problem, not even related to you. Hope everything works out :)
No, this is not a split personality. She is very fearful, confused, and has no confidence in herself and no trust in others. Yes, she needs help. She is letting her past control her and she needs to learn to let go of all that bad stuff and trust herself and her decisions. A therapist would be a great deal of help to her.