Please help me...why is my mum so abusive?!

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She might kill you next time
tell the cops

That is defiantly illegal. I'm sure there are lots of people you can tell, do you have a councilor at school? I'm sure if you tell the doctor he would know what to do. You could tell a police on the street (or if worse comes to worse phone 911).

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oh darn that's only in Canada -- never mind

Tell your school's principle or school's nurse, they're their to help!

I feel so sad hearing your story. Let this be the start, you sharing us what you've been experiencing since your childhood. Let this be the start for you to make a move to change your life. Do not hesitate to reach an authority (this may be your school's guidance counselor, your local social welfare office, the police, and the like). Tell them about your condition. They will help you. Based on your story, your mom has violated your rights, not just once, but in many occasions. You do not deserve all those beating up and emotional turmoil. You feeling depressed, degraded and suicidal is the psychological result of the maltreatment you've been experiencing. You're not worthless; go and make that change.

Immediately find a relative that is NOT abusive that you can live with until you're an adult. You're mom is harming you and you do not deserve this kind of treatment from anyone! Remember to stay strong and dont let what others say or do to you bring you down. Just make sure to find a family member or friend where you can safely stay with. Please dont do away with your life, you deserve a chance at being happy. Take care of yourself. Goodluck dear. <3

sorry about that unpleasant experience you are going through. At 14 years, you can make good judgment at-least not based on emotions especially after going through such trauma. I have heard only your part of the story not your mom's but i will also request you to try to understand your mom's likes and dislikes because its now more of finding a solution than a fault. Try to adjust.Do things as she prefers keeping in mind that its more of her home than yours.

One ugly reason your mom may not like you is because you remind her of your father who might have hurt her so bad or you might be a barrier to her future goals. That is why i suggest that you try to get closer to her as much as possible because we humans tend to get ashamed when facts are split bare!

Always keep in mind that, no one in this world is useless or worthless no matter how minimal their contribution could be.Try to think more about your self than your mom, for change begins with you the individual.

Good luck my dear

I am a depressed 14 year old. And i was child abused as well, i know how you feel sweets.Its horrible, humilating and forver remains in the mind.
Your mum might be emotionally sick, she loves you, but she isnt one who gives love, or shows you. I suggest you speak to someone you trust, a teacher or aunt or something, someone who will understand and you know you'll feel protected by. If you dont have anyone than call the police or a counselling... harsh as it may seem, but you cant live like this. You and your mother are in pain.
Try to understand when does she abuse you. Do you annoy her? Did you try talking to her when she feels ok?
Your mum might also be depressed, and from what you said about your father, it seems like they have divorced. This truly hurts. But its time to save yourself!
Please dont hesitate.. report for child abuse.

Dont even think about committing suicide.. she doesnt appreciate you dear, others do! You are worth living!! She is the criminal, dont blame yourself.

Was there.

This might not be news to you but you are the victim of a criminal.
It is criminal to hit a child and verbally and mentally abuse them and suggest suicide.

Just remind Mommy Dearest that you only have to make one phone call to the authorities or tell a teacher at your school to bring an investigator to your house to confront Mom. How would she like that, eh?

And once you realize that you are an ongoing victim of criminal behavior and that you have options to protect yourself, your depression will probably disappear. So, protect yourself, assert yourself and remind Mom that SHE is the criminal, the worthless one....not you.
I wish you all the best.

Does it seem like shes having a hard time? Does she show mental problems from time to time? It seems like your parents isn't so nice since you were born. If it were me, I would get help from child care protection or talk to your school counselor about your problems. The more you get abuse the more depressed you will get. And trust me, anxiety and depression when you get older isn't easy to cure. In the worse case scenario when you hit rock bottom, You might end up in complete despair and kill yourself or others. For now, observe why shes acting like that. Is she an alcoholic? Does she stress out after coming home? If she show signs of having a hard time, Maybe a support and help from other might help a little.

Call child services, please! You have access to the internet so look up the number for them in your area and please get out of that house!
You are so young, and you can be put into a great home! Please, your worth more than that, and you don't deserve to feel worthless and think about committing suicide. You have to remember that you're not alone and there are people that care about you out in that big world, me being one of them. It sounds like you've had a terrible life, but you can improve if you pick up that phone and call them.
It sounds like your mother will never change, things may even get worse and she may be a danger to your life. Please, email me on emma_wiersma@hotmail.com

I will help you anyway I can.
I CARE about YOU and YOUR LIFE.
You need to call child services and leave that house, your life could be in danger!

Again, there are people out there who care about your wellbeing. It doesn't have to be this way.
Please don't kill yourself. Email me further if you need anymore help (if you want me to call for you, or if you want help with anything else) but please try to contact me to tell me you're ok.

My brain.

it's quite obvious your mom doesn't have the mental capacity to blame her problems on herself and be an adult about things. Nobody should have to go through all the crap you went through, next time she even raises her hand at you, have her arrested, and don't be afraid. Now don't get me wrong, I've always been a proponent of physical punishment for one's own kids, but their is a limit,and what your mom has done to you is sheer and outright mental, physical, verbal, and emotional abuse. At one point you're going to have to grow up and realize that nobody, not even your own flesh and blood parents can you treat you in such an inhumane way, seriously, most people don't even treat their own animals like that. And you're no animal. Clearly you're smart enough to know there is something totally wrong with your mom, NOT WITH YOU. Get help, there counselors and therapists, and have your mom arrested! let her suffer and experience some of the crap she put you through. Don't be afraid of her. Don't be insecure, and immature like her. Rise above your parents. Good luck honey. I'll know you'll make the right choice.