How to boost my confidence, when my life is constant depression?!


Question: How to boost my confidence, when my life is constant depression?
my life isn't really normal, there are many hurdles that ive had to get over and still trying to get over. I suppose ill start from the very start, when i was young i was a happy, self motivated person. I didn't really rely on my parents or sister because everytime i asked to do things they would never bother doing them, so i always kept myself to myself ( i still do). Over the years ive noticed my dad doesnt hardly talk to me, he favours my bitchy annoying brat of a older sister more, i dont say anything cause its always been normal. I just feel so lonely. My mom is the only person in the house i can confide to but shes the most Phsyco person you will ever meet, she screams, moans and completely ***** you up if you did something wrong, so in my defence i yell back then she starts argueing that its my falt. I just like to be left alone at times, im a 16 year old male im bound to have some hormones in me to make me moody and that. When im with my friends its pretty much the same story, they treat me like a doormat and think they can always rely on me because i will never let them down. And whenever i tell them this or get abit arguementative they treat me like im a baby and just laugh in my face, I HATE THAT, i hate it when people who know there in the wrong just laugh in your face trying to recover the conversation because they dont know what to say, and it makes me look so weak. And to make things more worse im in love with another boy, i dont want to be gay, ive always imagined myself with kids and a wife, but this boy (who is also my friend) is with me everyday and he is absoloutely gorgeous and all the girls are after him, it makes me feel like **** and everytime i see him and he looks or texts other girls it makes my heart and eyes feel like rock, but i cant do anything about it so im just standing there watching it all. It breaks my heart everyday and i cant do nothing because im stil 16 and whats a 16 year old gonna do? run away with no car no job no money. im stuck in a rut. My self confidence is at a all time low, i constantley think of suicide and slate my looks clothes and inteligence. I hate myself every day and my friends and family make me feel worse about myself. Is there anyway i can just boost my confidence and ge away from it all??

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Greg I think you should talk to a family member that you trust and you know loves you and would understand what you are going though. If you feel like you cannot do that then you should really talk to your school counselor about how you feel and see if that person can help you.

It sounds like you really just need someone to talk to and to get advice and guidance from.
What you are going through is more common than most people care to realize alot of young people from the early teens to late twenties go through this. Its up to you to find out who you really are and it is important that you come to terms with that and accept yourself.You have the potenial to be anything you want so why waste that on suicide.The way you feel can and will change if you seek help from another person.You are depressed and you cannot change that without help.Keep in mind that depression is a mood disorder that affects the way you think and feel. The most common symptom is a feeling of deep sadness. People who are depressed also may feel hopeless, or that life isn’t worth living you obviously want help to fix the way your feeling and you sense that if it were to continue it will not be a good thing so the right choice is to find an adult that you can trust and talk to them.Dont lose faith in yourself if changes dont happen over night stay strong .Just by asking for advice here proves that you have the strength needed.Depression is a very serious illness and can be difficult to over come and it takes some time.If your family wont listen to you there are other people that will.

Dont doubt your school counslor even if the person cannot help directly they can be a great resourse to find other ways to recieve assistance with your problems.And they do care because their job is to counsil students and offer advice.

Also I suggest not telling any of the other students or friends about how you feel towards your guy friend. children and young adults are not mature enough to realize they rip people to pieces from the inside out by making fun of their problems.Protect yourself and seek help from an adult that you trust.

These may help

National Institute of Mental Health
866-615-6464
www.nimh.nih.gov

National Alliance on Mental Illness
800-950-6264
www.nami.org

Mental Health America
800-969-6642
www.nmha.org

National Suicide Hotline
800-784-2433 (800-SUICIDE)

Drop the judgments.

If you can really really do that, it will free you up more than you can know. Ditto the self-hatred. It will destroy you if you let it.


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