social problems, please help me?!

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now wait a minute. first i want you to understand what a best friend really is. i don't think the person you have given the respect or title to is your best friend. she certainly is not acting like one by not involving you or being happy to have you in this little social click of hers.
you are ready to go out and socialize and have fun so do it. i am sure there are other girls in your school that you say hello to. next time you say hello start a small conversation with them. start by making new acquaintances and this may lead to new friends to do stuff with. soon a new best friend will be there for you as you for them.
look into functions going on outside of school. like a bowling league, softball team, or go check out activities at your local arts and crafts or hobby store. there are classes that teach some fun things to do and believe me you will meet a whole new group of people your age, which will give you new friends to hang out with.
you do have a purpose and if you really want to feel needed visit a local nursing home and say hello to the old folks that do not have anyone. or volunteer at a hospital, lots of people need you there to do small things like take water to patients.(you won't be touching them so don't freak out)
also join a church,they do lots of stuff outside of church with young people.
talk to your counselor at school and don't be scared. they are there to help.
i am sure you have a great personality and are very smart, so go for it girl. and as for that best friend, before too long she will be just an acquaintance or begging you to let her hang out with you.
keep your head up and walk tall. good luck with school and getting to college.
p.s. start walking your neighbors dogs. spread the word or make flyers to do that and it could turn in to a small business.you could be the next youngest entrepreneur. (and also meet new friends)

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Instead of seeing this as a problem and discussing it with your friends in this way, why not suggest an outing or something like that with your friends. If they then see that you are up for going out, they might be more likely to invite you next time.

It will take a few attempts to get in on the scene and you may need to suggest a few outings before you become accepted, but it's worth a try?

Good luck

Develop some rewarding habits of your own.

First, it is NOT stupid to feel this way. Stop telling yourself that. It is a very legitimate feeling and you have to recognize all of the negative self talk you are doing to yourself.
Ok I can totally relate to you, but the only difference I see between us is that I have hope. I know that while this might be a phase in my life where I am feeling a little lonely and secluded, I know that it will pass eventually and bigger better things will come my way. You have to know that you CAN be happy again, and will if you give yourself the chance. Why give up now? I am guessing you are in high school, did you know that you probably wont really know yourself until age 25? This age is so difficult, its hard to fit in and find a group you really have fun with.
I had nothing in common with my high school friends. I was miserable because everyone was so fake and dramatic. When I came to college, I was able to do what I wanted to do, not follow everyone else. I decided to join a church community and we went on alternative spring break to build houses for the poor. I made a great group of friends and really found part of myself. I am telling you this because I think you need to get involved in something bigger than yourself. Maybe a part-time job, volunteer work, sports, theatre, animals, whatever you like. You will come in contact with other people you can relate to, and friendship is much easier when you have lots in common.
Who cares about your old best friend. If she was someone worth friendship she would not be so concerned with herself and recognize your struggle. Just because your "friends" now don't make you feel worth anything, you ARE worth a whole lot. Real friends would see that, and you can have real friends.

Just know that there is help out there, a lot of people go to therapy for friend issues or lack thereof, I have been to counseling because of this exact reason. I told him I am very isolated because I am afraid of rejection, and everything else I had been feeling. Trust me just talking about it helps 85%... he gave me lots of suggestions, tips, and just understood me. You have to try to find someone who you like and trust. Dont be embarrassed, this is your life so take control! Good luck and I promise it gets better, much better.

you and i have a similar problem. but try to imagine yourself in my shoes for a second ok? you should appreciate the fact that you have a social life with friends. just imagine if you didn't have a soul in the world to talk to and express your feelings with.. or too even have a good laugh with? the way to better yourself and make yourself feel better is to see the good you have in your life and to just forget about the negativity that surrounds you. if you see something bad happening in life try to top it. try to flip negativity into positivity. be real to yourself. be real to everyone else around you. if your not honest with yourself then you would be lieing 2 times as much to both sides of the board. and like you said.. you want a social life outside of school then start showing up more and i bet the more you show up and try to participate in what their doing might even show them that your making an effort. if not then find new people. its not always easy but believe me you can achieve so much if you put forth the effort first. forget whatever your feeling now regardless whatever it is your thinking. think of what's real and true. think of what would benefit you.. what would make you happy.. find the source of the problem. the best way to solve your problems is too overcome your fear first. to deal with depression in the easiest manner is to surround yourself in an environment that you know has no form of stress involved in it. an example of that is maybe go to the beach and just listen to the waves, or go look at a good view from a hill or something. Only we as individuals truely know what would make us happy. i hope i've helped. i've come a long way and have been through enough to understand just how deep pain can drag you down. dont let it get the best of you and keep your chin up. the only road that pain will lead you to is a chain reaction or what would appear to be never ending bombs going off. but the only way to overcome that is break the routine and do something productive. :) god bless you. (People can be angels to, just try to see the signs)