I'm 16 and I can't cope with all that's going on, work, college, !


Question: I'm 16 and I can't cope with all that's going on, work, college, work experience. please help?
I'm a 16 year old girl and I go to college on Monday, Tuesday and Thursday. In the space of 2 weeks I got work experience for the course I do at an estate agents on wednesdays 9-5 and I got a job at mcdonalds and the shifts are 8 hours long and i do about 2-3 a week. I'm finding myself panicking and not being able to cope. can others cope my age? how can I help myself? I have 8 More wednesdays of work experience to do which might ease the load a bit but that is 8 weeks away. please help?

Answers:

you cant cope with it all BECAUSE yo're panicking.
stop panicking! :)

i COMPLETELY know what you mean, im 17 now and things can get so stressful, they're only gonna get worse before they get better.
take the time out, get off the computer, and make yourself a timetable and stick to it.
write out all you currently have going on, school, work, extra curricular stuff, everything which has a set time.
and see where your free spaces are.

i make a timetable which goes from Monday to Sunday (duh) and with 4 boxes underneath each of them
one for the early stuff, two afternoons and one night.
ill explain.
Wednesday
- School 9-3.35
-Hockey 3.35-5
- [Blank]
-Volleyball 7-9 (cause i doubt i would be doing anything later than 9pm, so that would be the last thing i do in the day)

meaning i have a free space between 5-7 :)

its really handy :)
just write it out and stick it up on your wall or something, and see when you have frees, and when you can afford to put in another activity in :)



Can you not reduce your hours at McD's. Speak to your manager - I'm sure they will let you reduce your hours temporarily whilst you got the work experience going on.

If unable to reduce hours at work for whatever reason, you need to look at other ways to make the best use of time, even it means (temporarily) cutting back time spent hanging out with friends. As other have said, draw up a timetable planning out what you are going to do and when. It will help out a lot having little targets to meet.



First off - BREATHE!

Secondly...get a calendar and write out your schedule so you can easily prioritize your time. Sometimes it's calming to see it all laid out in black and white so you can formulate your weekly plans.

Yes, it's normal to feel pressure...whether it's college, work, family, kids...there's always some stress in living...



When I was tour age I had college 4 days a week then for 3 night s a week I worked at homebase then for 2 days a week I worked for halfords it's about knowing your limits and when you get beyond your limits cut back and manage your time with a graph it helps alot



Try not to think to far ahead. Just concentrate on what you have to do today and get through that. Dont even think about tomorrow. At your age you should be having fun, do you really need to do everything you are doing.



can't cope with WHAT exactly? what specifically is it about the work place that upsets you? is it certain aspects of the work? what can't you cope with?



you're only 16. you're trying to grow up way too fast. you shouldn't be working that much. all you should be worrying about is college and maybe working 10-20 hrs a week. can your parents help you pay for school or get a loan?



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Im 15 if i was you i'd do what the most important stuff first is 1 colledge
Ask manager if you can have different shifts at Mcdonald
but stay with work experience because all referral are good



take a deep breathe and work for 8weeks.. there's no easy way out. and dont panick.. panicking will make it worse..just work and hit your ipod by the end of the day..to chill with the work load.



Ah! Normal teenage feelings.



Do some research on Stress Management and apply what you learn.



You have way too much going on! I was going to tell you to quit something, but I see that some of your problem is going to resolve itself in 8 weeks.

Since its temporary, I am going to advise you to stick with it. Tell yourself that this is temporary and you can do it. Really, tell yourself this a lot, the brain is very suggestible.

Also, when you get some down time, use it for that. Do something relaxing or sleep. If you are not tired then exercise and burn off the nerves.

You can do it. Your life is way too busy for a kid your age, but it may a taste of things to come. Successful people are often very busy. In demand, you see.

A successful person who is also a dad, among other things.



Sometimes I see 16 year olds coping with everything and I am so embarrassed that I was never (and probably still can't) match that.

Some people can and others can't.

Perhaps you are a little bit too responsible, and feel you will fail or let people down.

My suggestion is that you work through the week, then really sleep for the weekend. I used to find I would sleep an average of 9 hours a week at your age, just work it out so that weeknights I might to 2 or 5 hours sleep, then sleep many hours on the weekend.

Maybe also talk to the work experience place and see if you can't change the hours a little (16 half days instead of 8 full days)

Or perhaps slow down the McDonalds work a little and get a bit more balance.

Good luck.



i'm 16 too and find that sixth form and juggling life is very hard. it can be very stressful but you need to calm yourself. don't let it control your life. maybe consider quitting from your job until your work experience is over so you have less to think about. you just have to make sure you keep on top off all college work, prioratise it first and then think of everything else.
i have the same prolem sometimes and decided that i would create my self a timetable to finish school stuff then the rest of the time i can dedicate to work experience and other contributions..
give yourself some free time as well becuase if you don't you will get exhausted and that is exactly what happened to me and founnd myself really tired.
i hope this has helped :) all the best xx
p.s remember keep calm and dont give up. just think positive

personal experience




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