What do you think is wrong with this girl?!

Question: What do you think is wrong with this girl?

This is basically my brother's girlfriend. Ok, she basically causes a scene whenever she can. She'll scream, rage, throw fits at birthday parties, cafes, public transportation, anywhere and she doesn't feel the least bit embarassed. She refuses to leave your house, even if you ask repeatedly. Owners of the house have to basically beg her to leave. She'll sleep in your house, and then complain if you make too much noise, saying how you woke her up. She has unprotected sex with numerous numerous partners, and doesn't really feel ashamed for it whasoever. If you have to accomplish something, or get something, she will try to sabotage you. She enjoys flirting with or being physical with her female friends' boyfriends. If she sees you have a boyfriend, she will definitely try to flirt or sleep with him. She lies quite a lot. She thinks that her problems are more important than anyone else's. She looks down on people, and thinks they are below her. She sometimes sadistically laughs when you're in pain or have a problem. She enjoys seeing other people upset, and the more out of control, hysterical or emotional they become, the more calm she becomes.

What is wrong with her? Do you think she has some type of personality disorder?

Thanks.

Answers:

She certainly sounds like she has some kind of personality disorder, if this is her normal, every day pattern of behavior and she's been this way for over a year (over 2 years if she's under 18). If you can say for sure that yes, this is her established personality, then that would undoubtedly qualify as some kind of personality disorder, I would guess histrionic personality disorder.

People who have histrionic personality disorder (HPD) have to have the attention on them constantly, whether it's positive or negative. They will throw fits, seduce others, do anything within their power so that the spotlight remains on them, regardless of whether people are happy with them or not. It's not APPROVAL they're seeking, just attention, be it good or bad. I would guess that she feels that all of these things she does garner her attention from other people, which is what her disordered personality feeds off of.

It's a shame that your brother feels like he needs to stay with a person like this. I can't fathom why someone would remain in a relationship with a person like that unless they were so convinced that they could not find love elsewhere that they felt this was their only option. Maybe you should talk to your brother about how you feel about his girlfriend, and voice your concerns about how she may be bad for him.

Good luck.

if you tell somebody to leave your house and they don't, you can have them arrested for trespassing. you can debate how insane she is while she is in jail. it sounds to me like she is desperate for attention. try ignoring her and see how she reacts.

From what you are saying it sounds like she is Bipolar and suffering from Oppositional Defiant Disorder. Untreated this can lead to sociopathic and Narcissitic behaviors.
I also think she is in serious pain and the destructiveness and promiscuity towards others is an outlet for her.
I would reccommend treating her with kindness. I know it will be very hard but it might help her stop sabotaging you and hopefully herself. If you can get a softer side of her out then maybe you can advise her to seek professional help without her shrugging it off. Also try to get your brother to bring these issues up. His girlfriend's behavior is not healthy for him and she doesnt seek treatment the relationship will be a lost cause. One must love themselves before loving others and she sounds very insecure. (The "Tough Girl" attitude is a facade.)

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