My therapist is confusing me..PLEASE HELP!?!

There is a great book that may help you understand what your therapist is trying to tell you. Its by Dr. Penelope Russianoff and it is called Why do I think I am nothing without a Man. I think the title says it all. I read it and found it eye opening. I think this may be what your therapist is saying. Check it out.

She's telling you to learn to be self sufficient. Having a boyfriend shouldn't be your answer to happiness.

What she'd basically telling you is that you need to learn to love yourself, and see your self worth as a person, even if you don't currently have a boyfriend. This will give you self confidence in yourself, and you won't define yourself by whether you have a boyfriend or not. Life is full of rejections, so you need help to learn how to deal with them. Soul searching is not the same as keeping busy doing activities. Learning who you are, and what you really want in life for yourself, will actually help you attract someone who really cares about you. You're only 22, so you've got a lot of time to date and find the right guy.

Awl sweety your still young and i know right now thats not what you want to hear, there is a lot of jerks out there and they are going to hurt your feeling, guys these days are self absorbed. Your probably to good for those guys, maybe your picking the wrong kind of guys. If you go out to the bars you probably won't find a good guy there, they may stick around for awhile, until the next girl he meets at bar. Your going threw a dry spell maybe and sometimes it can last a long time before you find someone else. You know you usually fine the right one when you least expect, so hang in there,you seem like a very loveable women and i'm sure there is that lucky guy still out there waitng to meet you!!