Why do I feel this way?!
Question: Why do I feel this way?
I've been covering it up in public though, always acting bubbly and happy.
But it's gotten so much worse in the last two years.
I've started cutting, planning suicide, and just been crying for hours on end.
My grades are usually As, I go to a selective school, and I've gotten several scholarships, but I feel stupid.
I feel disgustingly ugly all the time and compare myself to everyone prettier.
I feel like my friends hate me, and that I'm just being used.
I don't understand why I feel this way. Is this normal for 14 year olds? Should I leave it and see if it gets better?
I just want to stop feeling this way.
Answers:
Listen,, the most important thing to understand in life is that the mind is a disastrously deceptive thing and that it can control and overpower you if you allow it. All the things that make sense to you now may seem so ridiculous in the near future if you learn how to keep control over your thoughts and feelings. In terms of your grades, the fact that you get As should be a motivation to do better and should be something to take pride in. You should not feel less intelligent in any way. In terms of your looks, all you have to do is look around you to realize that there are millions of people, great people, successful people, and smart people who would wish to look better perhaps. Your appearance is something that you cannot change so worrying about it and letting it make you bitter is a foolish thing to do. And if any of your friends are to judge you based on your appearance or on any other basis, the fault is theirs and I see no reason why you should feel like you did anything wrong. On the contrary, be happy and thankful for what you have because believe me, there are much worse problems in the world and much more wretched lives in places like Africa, Afghanistan, etc. Just know that that the way you feel about yourself is more important than anything and as long as you keep your conscience clean and your confidence high, then there should be no reason why you shouldn't be happy. I talk only from my own experience and I hope that you will not have to have such experiences. Stay happy :)
Yeah dude I'm 14 and I just started feeling better the last few months. You just need to find something important to do. Maybe sports? Just think about this if your at the bottom of the hill you can only go up right? So things will get better.
Wow man i totally feel the same and my 14th Bday is in 2 weeks.
My life feels so screwed right now, my parents don't listen, and I'm trying to lose the self-conciseness I created when I was 12. And I feel really bad because I'm losing my connection with God, and my boyfriend is making me so happy (no sex or anything lol, just him being there when others aren't).
I think we both just need to sit this out. There IS light at the end of the tunnel, the world IS beautiful, our parents DO love us. We are beautiful/handsome, unique, talented human beings. Our friends don't hate us, and we ain't stupid.
Don't compare yourself. Look in the mirror at night, tell yourself I love you. Smile. Fiddle with your hair (if your a girl) and sort of pose for yourself and tell yourself you are so beautiful.
Dont be stuck up. Just be confident. Life is a gift, let's change the world and make that gift worth living (:
I have confidence in confidence. AND that's all working for me (:
Yah lots of teenagers feel this way, i mean it's not "normal" but everyone feels like this sometimes. I think you should find something your passionate about, be yourself, and love who you are, don't focus on the negative things about you. Everyone has something about themselves they don't like but they learn to love it & accept it. Or just focus on good things. You could have a chemical thing going on that's causing depression. I think you need to tell somebody how you feel, keeping this inside will only make things much worse over time. Tell your mom or dad what your feeling, or tell them you think you could be depressed & have felt like this for a long time.
You could try medication, therapy, or positive thinking.
Good luck & make sure you get the help you need
Trust me, the worst thing you can ever do is just leave it alone. I did that, thinking I was just in some tough phase in life or something, and it got so much worse than I thought my depression could ever get. The best thing you could do is tell someone you can trust about it, and don't hold off on it, find someone immediately, weather it be a friend, family member, psychiatrist, whatever just tell someone. I really wish you the best of luck and you will get better, I promise! And everyone will get depressed at some point in time, you are not alone, trust me.
Also, it may sound weird coming from someone you've never met before but you are NOT ugly, no one is. And being beautiful can only come from the heart, not the body, I really do believe in that! =3