How do i live in a negative atmosphere?!

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Why do you have a boyfriend like that? Doesn't he care for your feelings at all? Why does he hate Valentines Day? It's a day to express your love for your hunny. You didn't describe him much but if you really care for him and this family I would try and talk to them about it. Even though his kids are adults they shouldn't be treating you like that. I would have left that house by now if I were you, the way they are treating you and the house. You shouldn't have to feel like your in a lonley atmosphere, especially because your with your boyfriend, you should feel a loving atmosphere. I don't know what kind of family history they have (it sounds like his son and the girlfriend don't like you for whatever reason) so it might be weird to interfere but I would talk to your boyfriend about some of this. If he doesn't understand, then honestly you aren't left with many options. You can stay and try to help the situation or you leave because at this point it is not your job to clean up after everyone, and then get disrespected, on top of that your religion being ignored, they sound very obnoxious and they need to grow up. If you hang around these people longer it will only hurt yourself, no matter what you think you are staying for, at this point I would not consider it "worth it", but if there is something strongly tying you to your boyfriend or this family then at least try to fix things. But it sounds like they wouldn't understand. Try, if it doesn't work, leave. (This is exactly what I would do.)

Then why are you with him? If he's not a caring and loving person. Plan outdoor activities, and if they dont want to come along, then invite friends to go, but shouldnt live like that...if they want to live a bitter life...dont follow their steps! Be active and independent...you dont need them

Wow! All I can say is that they are using you as a servant. The only thing I could suggest is that you pack your bags and get out. Do this as soon as your financial situation allows. Even better if you could move in with a relative on a temporary basis right now. Apparently your "boyfriend" is a real slug and has lived most of his life like this and his son is following in his footsteps. They both need the type of professional help (a shrink) that is way beyond what you could ever do for them. If that is the case you are not about to change them. They will make you depressed and drag you down with them. It is a situation you can't deal with but should extricate yourself from. This is just my opinion. Take it for whatever you feel it is worth. I wish you luck.