Need help with daddy issues/relationship issues?!

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Well, when it comes to your dad, he may have had issues with his parents and thus, deciding when he became a parent that he would act the way his parents did (and not overcome his abuse by being better than that)...do you know if he had any issues with his parents (or his dad in particular)? He may have suffered from some sort of issue in his childhood and when he grew up, it probably had some sort of impact on the way he treats others...including his own child (or children). I know that it's no excuse for him but maybe something had occurred in his life that influences the way he thinks. Maybe you could get some counseling together...the two of you and see if you can resolve this issue through talking about it.

As for your relationships, you may be insecure. You may feel because that your dad has hurt you (and he's a male/guy), you are afraid that the guy you're going out with may hurt you as well...it's OK to be afraid but you don't have to worry. You're still young and still have time to find someone, so you shouldn't worry. I know it may be hard but once you start to trust someone you really like, it may help things get better. I know you may be afraid of getting hurt but sometimes that's what makes us stronger and wiser. I'm not saying the guy will hurt you but if it ever happens, just know that you aren't alone and that lots of other people have gone through the same thing and that there's always someone else out there. If you don't learn to trust the guy you're going out with, you won't be able to advance and won't be happy.

The rape fantasies...well, you know your heart and you know whether or not you could really go through with hurting someone like that. You may want to seek counseling on behalf of this and your relationship issues. Don't worry, things will start to get better soon. I know it may be hard but try your hardest to look at the positive side of things and maybe it will help you.