Is this weird? I'm worried...Help?!
Question: Is this weird? I'm worried...Help?
I can't say certain words, but I can type and write some of them, like I can't say penis or vagina, and I don't like reading or hearing the words but I can type and write them, if I have to.
But there's this one word I can't say or write, and I can only type it if I force myself too.
That word is condom.
I also loathe reading or hearing it.
But even weirder than that, is the fact that I physically can't touch them or go near them either! In P.S.C.E we were supposed to practice with them, and I couldn't touch it, and when my friend tried to make me, I practically had a fight or flight reaction!
What I'm really wondering is how I'm going to have sex, because I know you can without one, but it's safer than just the pill because it prevents STD's...
Help?
Answers:
Hollyholly's answer is so false and ridiculous it actually makes me angry! OF COURSE CONDOMS ARE SAFE! THAT'S WHAT THEY ARE FOR! They are there to protect you from harm! They are not 100% effective, as no form of protection is, but they are VERY highly effective, and the best option to use in protecting yourself--they are NOT unsafe--you are SO much safer using them than not! Birth control is quite reliable to prevent pregnancy, but it is not 100% effective either, and STDs are a huge factor to worry about!
If you don't use condoms, you are exposing yourself to the great possibility of getting diseases such as Herpes (breakouts of open sores on your genitals, which can be very contagious to a partner, and you will never be able to have sex without a barrier again, so that you don't transmit it to your partner), Genital Warts (doesn't sound good, does it?), and HIV/AIDS, which can be fatal. I am sorry to hear that you are that uncomfortable with sexual terms and I can understand that as sexual talk used to make me very nervous as well, but I have to ask you..don't you think it would be better to gradually get used to the idea and understanding of condoms before you ave sex, than expose yourself to life-altering health risks as well as risking your life over your fears?
As scary as it may seem now to get over the fear of condoms, you can get used to them gradually after time, and you will eventually no longer fear them at all. Personally, I think that the risk of getting STDs is much scarier than the condoms themselves. Good luck with this problem, and I wish you well in overcoming it, but you can and you will :) As amazingly hard as it may be for you to say the words, maybe you could work up the nerve gradually to type the words, and print them as a letter to give to someone? You could type up the letter and anonymously leave the note to your health teacher or counsellor when they aren't around, so that they won't know it was you who gave it to them when they answer it. Best wishes to you :)
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Obviously... your just uncomfortable with sexual things... It is just a phase that you will grow out of... I used to have a problem with saying Vagina and Penis...But I thought about it and It's Not a bad word at all... Its a body part. and Condoms really can get you a little disturbed. try thinking about how their really just protection from getting really sick. Hope this helps.
Could there be some religious/moral reason that causes this?
shame related to some prior experience, maybe sexual abuse
Trash bag. A force-flex one.
The safest thing to do is to get birthcontrol from the nearest Planned Parenthood organization. Also they are wonderful people to talk to about womens birth control or any other questions you might have for them.
Condoms are never too safe but you can always rely on the pill, a shot, or the patch to work, just pick the best one for you.
And sex is going to rock your world believe me :)
And don't worry about not being able to say those words, unless you have to write a 5 page essay about "How well do Condoms Work"
Just think, Condom is another word for Penis wrapping, if that is too harsh then... mentally expand your mind to adulthood