Cyber-bullying, Bullying, and emotional Bullying at school. . . Help?!


Question: Cyber-bullying, Bullying, and emotional Bullying at school. . . Help?
My best friend ally just recently turned on me and started calling me a slut and a whore....She screamed it to everyone in the lunch room..... everyone is starting to hang out with her more and out of all the friends I thought I had Only one of them sticks up for me... I just walk away when she insults me or gives me dirty looks but i come home and cry every day.... I'm Sick and tired of girls in my school screaming "SLUT!" down the hallway.....and Ally's boyfriend sent me an IM on facebook saying "I heard you called my girl a *****.....what do you want me to call you?" I cant take it anymore. what should I do?

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oh what a sick bunch of stupids.
talk to ur parents and to counselor .. and take it easy, they are just sick faces running down a sick society.



Have you seen the movie Easy- A. She was being called those names and she just embraced it. They won't keep doing it if they know it doesn't bother you. Sometimes you just have to stand up for yourself and if the people you know don't want to be your friend, then move on, make new friends. Stop caring what they think and or are saying about you.



Go to your guidance counselor or principal and explain the situation. Do this multiple times if what they do doesn't change anything. It may take multiple times. She may tease you for telling, but hopefully at least she'll stop what's she doing now.



You should talk to your counselor at school right away. They can help without causing a big scene. Then consider discussing it with your parents. I know they are the 'grownups' but they were teens at one time just like you. If you have trouble putting it into words then write it in a letter and say what you need to say. What you don't need to do is let it continue. It isn't healthy for your friend to be a bully and is certainly not healthy for you to be bullied. If all else fails and she continues then just look at her like she had something silly on her face or said something really dumb and walk off. Don't act like a victim and give her ammunition against you.



It is hard when someone we have been friends with seemingly turns on us for no apparent reason. It hurts when people say mean things and get others to join in on the "fun". It's great that you are looking for ways to address this issue in a respectful way. You are doing the right thing by ignoring the things that they say to you, but that doesn't make it hurt any less or make it go away. It seems like you might need to get someone with a little bit more authority involved such as a teacher, parent, or guidance counselor. In doing this, hopefully the bullying will be put to an end and going to school won't be so bad!

If you want to talk or need some advice, please call one of our counselors at 1-800-448-3000. We are youth crisis line and are here 24 hours a day 7 days a week to help. We look forward to hearing from you!!

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Bullies do what they do so U will react to them as they want U to. Nobody deserves to be treated that way. I used to be bullied so they could see what it took to incite me to violence-their words, not mine.
1 time someone suckered punched me in the mouth & I smiled at him & asked if that was his best shot. He never came back to that school, & the teachers never found out. I gave him what he wanted to give me, lower my self identity. I suggest U ask your 1 time friend if she is becoming delusional. When she asks what U mean tell her she must be if she believes what she says, or does, means anything to U. It's hard to change emotional pain into the kind of pain U get when a mosquito bites U, but it can be done. Just don't by into the garbage people want U to believe about yourself. U only need to believe what is true about who U are. Keep working on your self-esteem, & U will be noticed by those people who will like the real U, & stand by U because of who U really are.



You are doing the right thing by walking away. What ever you did to make her turn on you and publicly abuse you is not worth the heartache you're going through.

My theory is that if someone treats you that way, then they're not worth your attention. You need to find some new friends. This is a toxic friendship you're in (or not in) at the moment. The sad truth is, you'll never really trust your best friend again (or any of the other people she hangs out with), so it is imperative you find nicer people to pass your time with and not waste anymore time with her. She sounds awful.

Also, is there any way you can avoid these people for the time being? For example, spending time in the library or music rooms at lunch time? I understand you're very lonely and hurt at the moment but you may need to cocoon yourself away for a while so you can get your emotional strength back.

As for the cyber bullying, ignore it. I know it's hard, because all you want to do is defend yourself, but if you don't react, then eventually they'll find some other poor soul to destroy. Ignoring them empowers you, and really annoys them, as they want a reaction!

I hope it gets better for you (((HUGS)))




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