What should I do about my teenage daughter who hates her autistic brother?!
Question: What should I do about my teenage daughter who hates her autistic brother?
When my daughter was younger she was irritated by him but she didn't really seem to hate him. Now she seems to hate him. Sometimes she gives him dirty looks and she can't stand being around him. Whenever someone mentions autism or mentions my son's friends (who are also autistic) my daughter tries to change the subject or she leaves the room.
She also seems depressed lately and cries all the time, and she does not have any friends. Also, a few days ago I asked her if she would be willing to take care of her brother if something happened to my husband and me, and she became very upset and refused. What is going on? Why is she behaving like this and what should I do about it?
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If you want an honest opinion, she might feel like you love the autistic child more than her. She's probably fed up with his constant aggravation and people always talking about his disability rather than her achievements, and she probably needs her own space away from him. How much attention do you give her? Do you honestly listen to what she has to say?
well it is very selfish of you to think your daughter should be in charged of your retarded son when if you pass away..seriously you are causing a burden onto her she did not ask for..stop being inconsiderate and wisen up...you have written there your stupid son greatly enjoys annoying your daughter..and you wonder why she hates him..gee i wonder why. are you stupid or something, your daughter hates him because he annoys her on purpose..you answered your own question..IDIOT.
Thats rough, sorry to hear that.
I'll try to help, my younger sister had leukemia, and died from it at 6 years old.
I was angry and stuff after words.
Your daughter might feel like no attention is given to her, she is really upset at her bro for having this, going through a phase, or thinks that he is ruining her life.
Her being depressed could be many things. school, work, life, friends, money, whatever it is her brother is making it worse for her on a personal level.
She may feel he embrasses her and her life. But she should be grateful, for all of her life blessings. She hasn't discovered this yet, but cancer and autism are horrid things.
But u gotta keep it together, and it seems your daughter may need a shrink.
Was your daughter acting out before your son got diagnosed?
I know I started acting out a lot after my sister got diagnosed. I was 9 at the time.
Me.
Oh Didnt mean *shrink* in a bad way. She just might need to talk out her problems with a stranger, sometimes that's best.
she probably does not hate him as such but more the situation
as you have said she is depressed and prob feels all the focus is on her brother
talk to her make her feel like she is having some quality time with you ,i know its difficult for you all but she needs time and attention as well
she has no friends so encourage her to make some at college
if something happened to you and your husband ,by then she prob will have her own family to worry about and the thought of taking on another adult is just to much for her to contemplate right now!!
take her out for lunch or shopping anything,get to spend time with her
take her to the Dr's for her depression and get her a referral to therapy
look on www.youngminds.org.uk or kidshealth.com