My mom won't understand that I'm depressed. I don't know what to !


Question: My mom won't understand that I'm depressed. I don't know what to do?
ok so I've had depression for 4 years now. I never told anyone about it just maybe a few close friends. I pretty much kept everything bottled inside of me. My depression got in the way of school, I had trouble focusing and concentrating on school homework or studying for test because I spent so much being depressed and sad. I used to be a good student in school but then my marks started dropping. I pretty much cried myself to sleep every night for 4 years. I applied to university this year (I'm in grade 12) so I'm supposed to be going next year and to be honest with my depression and everything I feel I'm not ready to do. Like I said, I can't focus and concentrate on my school work so I feel I'm just going to be wasting a lot of money. Don't get me wrong, I really do I want go to university and get a great job, but I feel I need to get medical help first. I tried telling my mom that I wasn't ready and she just yelled at me so much that it came to the point where I have cried so much that I made myself sick :/ She didn't even call me for dinner that night. My dad's not much support either. He keeps comparing me to my sister by complaining about the things I do and saying stuff like your sister never did this or that or she does this. My sister isn't even a good child, she does a lot of things behind my parent's back but I never tell them because I don't want to get her in trouble, and I'm sure that if I did something bad she would keep it from them too. It hurts me so much when my dad just compares me to her. In fact, it's not only her, he compares me to my friends and my cousins. I've tried committing suicide several times before but never succeeded. My dad keeps saying that if I don't go to university, I'm going to be such an embarrassment to life. I don't know what to do or how to make my parents see that I'm not ready yet.

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Talk to your counselor at school and maybe they can work something out with your mom.



If you have your own money than go and get yourself treated, why tell your parents ? and if you can't afford a psychiatrist or your parents won't take you to a psychiatrist go and talk to your school counselor , maybe he will talk to your parents and they will understand your problem.



you'll be old enough to decide whether to go to college or not , dont let your parents make that decision for you, i went to college and the courses got too hard for me and i flunked out, if youre not ready youre better off waiting till you are, if youre depressed maybe you should ask god to help you get rid of that



Telling the people we love that we are struggling with feelings of depression can be extremely difficult. It is great that you are reaching out for help and looking for ways to address the issue. If you feel that your mom may react dramatically you may want to have someone you can trust there with you when you talk with her. If you feel that you cannot tell her in person, try writing a letter or and email to let her know how you are feeling. This may take away some of the pressure of a face to face confrontation and may also give her some time to think about things before discussing them with you. Things can and will get better if you continue to reach out for help and there is no shame in admitting that you need that help to get better!

If you want to talk or need some advice, please call one of our counselors at 1-800-448-3000. We are youth crisis line and are here 24 hours a day 7 days a week to help. We look forward to hearing from you!!

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aww bebe i wanna give you a hug <3
you can talk to me about it :)
im notta psychiatrist, but imma good lisner and i give good advice.
i'm younger than you, but i have sisters, and i hate being compared!! urggh
guess what?!
You cant self diagnose depression, first you have to get a doctor to diagnose you. From there they'll possibly get you medication and try to find out what triggered it. Depressions a tough thing to go through, but you don't have to go through it alone. yer momma will understand. Besides, you're almost 18. Even if she doesn't believe you, you're gonna be old enough to make your own medical decisions.
You can seek a counselor at your school, or a therapist.
Try to talk to your parents and tell them how you feel. If they don't listen, act desperate. text them, leave a note on the fridge or under the pillow, write them an email, leave a letter in the mailbox. Anything!!! It might sound cheesy, but it worked for my bff, it shall work for youu ;D andd, in additon, it will take away the nervousness of talking to her face to face!
Don't commit suicide. It would be like running away from a problem. And plus, what do you think us yahooians would do without youu <333 :(
About college, you already got in, and if you apply inna couple years, it may be harder&expensive.
you have a couple months before it, take them off.
go see a doctor during that time pd.
i hope you don't miss college, but its yer choice.
and if yer momma don't invite you to dinner, you can get a plane and eat at my house :P
good lukk, lovee, and if ya wanna talkk, i can prob make yuu laughh .(:
look!! it waza smiley witha molee hehe im good iight?!
best wishes, kissesz mwahhh
feel better,
let us yahoooers know how it all goess.
feel free to email mee -_-



Hi, If your depressed you should seek medical care. I'm sorry if this sounds offensive against your Parents but you have to look out for you. University Education won't mean a thing if you ignore Medical Attention because believe me it does worsen. My Son passed away 2 years ago at the of 22.Police wrote it off as a suicide. I'm still fighting it. My Son & I were very close & that's what's kept me going. We supported each other through anything. I always wanted to have Children & the Specialist told me at the age of 12 I could never have any because my heart condition was getting critical. At the age of almost 17 I became Pregnant while taking birth control. I felt I was given a sign. Doctor said you or the Baby won't make only 1 will survive. I told him I'll take my chances. He advised me he would have to notify My Mom because of my age & the risks involved. I always got along great with my Mom. Had all the respect in the world for her, but when she arrived at the Doctor's her solution was I guess you'll have to abort. I looked her in the eyes & said No. She was shocked. Then came the tears. I said you can be by my side & support my discission or you can turn & walk out that door. She said so I may loose my Daughter for you to try to have a baby. She said I would resend the child & if you survive I've got to watch you suffer. I told her than either way you'll loose me, I'm chancing it. She stuck by my side & both me & my Son survived. Had I listened I wouldn't have ever experiences the happiness. I raised my Son to come to me wsith any problem he ever had big or small I would be there. I told him never be afraid to come to me you'll work through it better with help than facing it alone. He had so much respect for me that when he was 15he came to my work & asked permission to have sex for the 1st. with his girlfriend. He said I know you won't be home for hours but that's your home & I won't if you don't feel comfortably. Of course I said yes. His friends evvied him for our relationship. If your Parents don't support your decision I'm sorry their loss because like me they would just end up loosing you another way
& that's worse. Sit them down & don't ask them you explain how your feeling & what your decision is. Then explain I hope you'll be their for emotional support. But if you choose not to be their for me



im so sorry :/ you just have to talk to your parents 1 on 1 and tell them how you feel trust me i had the same situation but i never told them how i felt...talk to your mom and dad just you and them it might be scary at first but at the end it would be worth it :) i wish you the best, good luck :D



You cant self diagnose depression, first you have to get a doctor to diagnose you. From there they'll possibly get you medication and try to find out what triggered it. Depressions a tough thing to go through, but you don't have to go through it alone.
I can assure you though, once the doctor diagnoses you, your mum will understand. Besides, you're almost 18. Even if she doesn't believe you, you're gonna be old enough to make your own medical decisions.



First, for medical advice look for a doctor. Depression can cause a chemical unbalance in your brain and can be getting from many conditions as an example a hormonal unbalances. From natural approach you can help yourself very much with tools and techniques by using Food, Supplementation, Relaxation, Exercising such a Yoga and Meditation. walking , breathing to combat your daily Stress. It will be good if you informed your parents. You need Social Support from friends and relatives. To be well you need to get also financial support from your parents ( good food, supplementation, Yoga classes cost money).
Rich for Natural Solution by using Power of Nature. Eliminate from your diet processed food, sugar and sweets, soft drinks.Improve quality of Sleeping Pattern, That means no TV and computer activities prior 2 hours of your night sleep . Drink plenty of Water to eliminate toxins from your system.
Nutrition
Exercise
Water
Sunlight( we need sunlight to make a Vitamin D)
Avoid harmful things ( tobacco, alcohol, too much coffee )
Breath fresh Air ( good air found between the trees, beaches)
Rest . You can not work or study for 24 hours.Use for rest daily routine rest/sleep. weekly. Spend some time for yourself ,meditate, relax. Go to vacation( such a retreats)
Trust in Universe and Divine help



Aww I'm sorry. I wanna give u a hugg. <3. Parents are dum. My moms kind of the same way. Don't commite suicide. Its not the rite way to go. there are plenty of website that u can go to where they can help u. Look them up and see what u can do. If u don't go to college its ok. Some people need their time to get things straightend. Maybe u should talk to them about how u have been feeling.



I'm sorry about that, and i know how you feel too. I know it's hard getting parents to understand, i'm sure you've tried many things to get them to. Try one more time telling them exactly how you feel and why you feel you shouldn't go to university just yet. Try explaining to them and tell them how you feel about how they compare you to others and say not going would be an embarrassment. If that does not work, you should talk to your counselor at school. They could help out a lot with getting your parents to see how important this is and they can even help you with how you feel. If you need to talk to anyone i'm here for you too =)



Girl, this is time that you grab the one you love, and you cry in their arms. Your friend, or anyone really. Maybe, as much as I'd hate this , go to your school counselor, tell him/ her your story. But as someone who's gone through depression, don't kill yourself. Someone will always love you, and want to share those speical moments with you.




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