How do you take insults?!


Question: How do you take insults?
On the rare occasions that i make friends I dont know how to react when they insult me. For example i go kickboxing and train with a girl whos like 8 years older than me, a lot more wittier and stronger but shes aslo good to me and gives me lifts home etc. I had an injury though last week and wasnt doing exercises properly the instructor was saying i was making excuses and i said im not and carried on. I was suppsoed to do 20 on one exersise but lost count and he siad how many did you do and i said 'i lost count but about 20 i did enough' and the girl said 'yeh right your just full of sh** katie'. Another girl laughed bit and said 'thats not very nice' and she said 'well its true'.

Its things like this that i remember i just ignored it cause obv theres nothing i can do but i cant imagine anyone else accepting it being spoken to like this lol but i dont want to be petty. Another friend called me 'midget women' cause im only 4ft11 lol a few weeks ago during an argument. Most people seem to insult me even my dad calls me a 'thick bit**' for things like accidently knocking a glass over or not shutting a door properly'..normal mistakes that people make.

I dont know whether im just over sensitive but it makes me annoyed because i never hear others being spoken to like this it just seems to be me. I ignore it but the anger secretly builds up and i end up comming out with sarcastic comments now and again but i dont want to be bitter.

Just wanted advice??

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I know what you mean, I get this too and it's not just you that gets spoken to in this way, believe me. The best thing you can do is ignore them, I know their comments hurt and they're not being fair towards you but you're doing the right thing by not stooping to their level by being petty and bitter about it. They are just trying to wind you up and make you feel insecure, probably because they get pleasure out of it as they maybe have insecurities of their own. In my experience, people always boss me around and blame me for things as they see me as a pushover, particularly some housemates I have to live with. I don't answer them back or stand up for myself as I'm too shy and can't be bothered to argue, so they feel they can act this way. Whoever doesn't want to cause a fight gets seen as a pushover and people feel it's ok to keep bossing them about all the time. Anyway, ignore them cos you're being the better person. Things like breaking glasses has happened to everyone in their life I'm sure, it's just an accident, it doesn't make you thick! All the best. :)

The best thing to take insults is to laugh along and ignore them, take no notice, love your haters and let them know it doesn't get to you. If they know it gets to you - they will carry on but if it's doing no harm they just wont bother anymore.

just laugh and ignore them

Don't ignore them. But don't give an emotional response showing that the insult has done its job. Laugh, turn it into a joke, or just shrug it off. Remember, when people are having bad days, they get irritable and will take it out on anyone around them. Don't sweat it, and kick some *** =D

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