Is it the rape victim's fault?!
Question: Is it the rape victim's fault?
But, she didn't and it all happened.
Is it her fault for not doing what she was taught?
When she told me about this, all I could think was, "Why didn't you push him off?!"
but...
does scaring the victim really make him/her defenseless?
I'm sorry if I seem heartless, but I'm curious to know if it is the victim's fault for not defending themselves. Is it?
Answers:
No not at all the victim was panicking and didn't know what to do its o.k. In a time of panic the human mind doesn't think rationally so comfort your friend he/she needs it don't chastise them.
I kind of see what you're saying in that she might have tried to stop the rape, but if someone holds a knife up to you and demands that you give them your wallet, and you give it to them without a fight is it therefore your fault you got mugged? Also, can you say that if she fought back it would have made a difference? Your friend was probably terrified at the time, so she forgot what she'd been told in the past and acted on instinct instead. What do you think?
Just because you were taught doesn't mean that your gonna do it .I was raped barely at 7 years old .I couldn't fight back at all .He was 21 years old .Its never a victim fault .they didn't ask to be raped or hurt .I thought like that for awhile until I realized
Own experince
Ummm. Kids can't fight back.
A lot of women(and men too) are afraid when it happens, you can't fight back when you're that disturbed.
I don't blame the victim, ever.
Rape is never the victim's fault....
never is it the victims fault.
...sure.
Never. It's never their fault.
It's kind of like when your watching a movie, and you think or say, "Man, if I were there, I would have kicked his/her butt!" when the character runs from the villian. What you think is different than what you actually feel at the time that it happens to you. You can be brave in your head, but it's harder when it's happening for real. Same with rape. You think you're prepared, and you are certain you can escape it. But when and if it happens, it's not easy. You're frozen in fear, and it takes an amazing amount of strength to overcome it and try to get away.
NEVER blame the victim. It was not their fault in the least.