how to get over a death?!

I'm 13 and when I was 11 my best friend died of cancer.
I do the following::
-Listen to music
-pray to her. Religious or not. At night, talk to him like he's there. Tell him how your day was.
- write to him.
-write it out in like it's a book. To share your story. Yu don't have to post it or Anything.
- counseling may not work. But try it if yu feel comfortable.

I'm so sorry to hear that, there is no way to get over the pain of loss immediately. Especially someone so close. Take it easy on yourself, you'll probably feel numb at first and it'll take awhile for the emotions to come out. Please don't feel guilty though. This is a tradgedy for all involved, eventually loss will give you a better perspective on life. It's hard first, but it will. There is no set time to get over grief. I would suggest seeing a psychologist, whilst it's hard to open up at first they can help you sort through the emotions in your mind.

I had friends who died in a natural disaster and another friend from childhood killed himself in a drug overdose only two years ago when I was 16. It's hard to deal with the conflicting emotions it brings up and you feel guilty. My father also turned out to be a real psycho with anti-social personality disorder and threatened to kill me and my mother after all this happened. The hard events of life however can bring some perspective, you can eventually feel lucky for the friends you still have, and eventually the simple joys of life will become fun again. It will take awhile though. Someone once told me that to feel true happiness, one must know true pain. It sounds silly but it is true. I'm not saying this is good that it happened, a tradgedy is always awful, especially in the death of someone so young. But it can also widen your perspective of life. These days I do feel life is worth living and feel lucky what I still have. I didn't mention my situation to say it's any bettter or worse then yours, I just want you to know that I'm not just saying cliches to make you feel better, and I want you to know that time actually can help with the pain.

Take as much time as you need, relax, scream, cry, do what ever you need to do to get the pain out. Just please don't turn to self abuse, you don't need to feel guilty. Spending time with friends, listening to music, playing sport or excercising, reading, anything you enjoy can help you get back to enjoying life again. But you'll need to take time to feel the grief aswell, don't push yourself to feel happy too quickly, just feel whatever emotions you need to feel.

Once again I am so sorry to hear about what happened, find someone you trust who you can talk to and express your feelings to, you don't need to go through this alone.

Death is never easy. My mother passed away too, and people will tell you that time heals everything. In my opinion, it doesn't heal anything because the longer they're gone, the more you miss them and the more it hurts. You'll begin to think at random times, "I wish she were here to see this", or "She would have loved this".

But life keeps going and in your heart you know that you're still living. It's normal to think of that person and even if time can't heal you, you'll mature and become more accepting of the fact that it happens to everyone. Take my advice, cry when you feel the immense natural pull to cry; and think of the person when you see fit, but don't forget that you're still living and that their energy is out there somewhere.

My best friend of 23-years committed suicide in 2008. He was NEVER depressed and something I never saw coming....There are proper stages of grief and emotions you will go through as you process this during the weeks and months to come...."normal" are

1.Denial
2. Anger
3. Bargaining
4. Depression
5. Acceptance.

By the way, they don't always occur in this order---it could be different for you (and you could possibly not experience one or more of the phases)--however I mention them just so you know you are "normal" to feel this way....

Also, here is a great article on surviving Grief from Suicide....
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/grief_loss.htm

Also, if you use Facebook there are several "Survivors of Suicide" groups that I suggest you join .

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/K%C3%BCbler-Ross_model


http://www.helpguide.org/mental/grief_loss.htm

That is very sad ): I will pray for you and her family. All you can do is pray, God will help you through this. I'm sorry for your loss ):

I'm so sorry
Time heals everything
Why eouldyoy friend do thT ?
Just think that her life is better now in heaven