Whats wrong with me?? PLEASE HELP ME.. :/ i know its long but i really need help!


Question: Whats wrong with me?? PLEASE HELP ME.. :/ i know its long but i really need help.?
im a 15 year old girl, and i think i might be depressed, or just have problems. im living a good life. i have all the things i could ever want, but for some reason, it seems like theres something missing, and its making me depressed. my mom yells at me alot, and over the year, ive changed so much. im a freshmen, so its kind of like im trying to find who i am. at the beginning of the year, i was loud, and crazy, and fun, but now, im slowly getting quieter, and more reserved. i dont tell anyone anything, and over the weekends i just go to parties, make out with boys, smoke pot, and drink. but like, im always SO sad. usually when im alone at home, and ive cut myself before, and i sometimes have thoughts about wanting to end my life. i never like anyone either, after a breakup type of thing, about a year ago, i havent liked one single person, just no one was interesting to me. i feel so lonely, even though i have so many friends. i turn to guys and doing things with guys for it to feel like someone cares about me, and people tell me i shouldnt, but i dont listen.

i hate the people i should love, and love the people i should hate..

whats wrong with me?! please help me..

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First of all, age 15 is pretty much when all of this happens to just about everybody -- you start to wonder what it's all about, what's my role in it, what is IT, anyway? (And no, it's not sex!)

Gotta tell ya, booze and pot and mindless making out aren't going to help you find the answers. In fact, they're going to make it all seem even more pointless. Not good, for somebody who thinks she may be depressed.

I have one suggestion. You may think it's silly or impossible, or you'll think it's typical adult BS, but it does open your eyes to a world outside yourself, a world with more meaning: Go volunteer somewhere. Volunteer with kids, or volunteer with old people. They're exactly the kinds of people you need right now. Kids are innocent (mostly, kind of), and old people have seen so much they're kind of back at the beginning, just like the kids. Volunteer at a homeless shelter to do crafts with the kids, or read with them, or play games with them. Volunteer at a library to read stories to read to little kids. Volunteer at a retirement home to visit older people, read with them, talk with them. Talk with old folk -- they have an amazing perspective on life. Some of them will tell you stories about their lives that will make you realize, dang, you have nothing to worry about! They may have tons of good advice for you, too. They've been there, done that. They know how to handle life.

OK, I have another suggestion...take a martial arts class. It's physical activity that's good for you, but it's mental development, too. You will feel your mind turning as disciplined as your body, and it will feel good.

I don't know about the mom yelling at you a lot part...there could be many reasons for it. She may be feeling stresses that you're unaware of. She may be feeling that you're growing away from her. Who knows? My guess is, though, that it actually has precious little to do with you. Unless they're real cruds, most parents really don't take joy in yelling at their kids for no reason. So if you're not giving her real reason (except maybe the drinking, pot and mindless making out????), she has a reason, you just don't know what it is. Anyway, getting out with the volunteering and/or the martial arts should help in that area, too.

Good luck, sweetie.



Sounds like being a teenager to me. If you stop fooling around with so many guys, stop drinking and doing drugs, and stop cutting yourself, I have a feeling you'll be a lot better off and will start feeling healthier and happier.



Stop watching hannah montana

God



Your headed down the path of destruction!



Your are 15 and have your whole life ahead of you. Your hormones are going nuts right about now and that is why you have all the mood swings and confusion and all the BS pot, drinking etc is just screwing with your chemistry more. The truth is that you need to get purpose in your life again and get your S#$T together. Stop going to the parties and start concentrating on you and your future and your family. You are heading down a path that leads to no where with partying and its taking you farther from your goal and is preventing you from getting out of the low you are in. Dont bump yourself off because you are needed. One day you will look back and see the learning purpose of this time and how much time you wasted chasing your tail trying to figure it out when all you needed to do is get focused. This too will pass. Stop doing the things with the guys. You dont need them to make you feel cared about. The lesson is that it comes from within yourself. Just by you asking this question you care enough about yourself to try to figure out whats going on. Be good to your self. THe place where it all starts is when you start doing things to take care of yourself physically. Go for a run or workout at the gym. Enjoy the things that are free in life. Get interested in your career. Maybe your have too much in your life and need to help those less fortunate to understand what it feel like.



sounds to me like you should just start over, start fresh. start hanging out with the right people, make friends that you care about and that care about you. life is nothing without great friends to depend on. you just need to break free from all the depressing stuff. I've gone through times like this, I've never told anyone, and I just got through it with my best friend in the whole universe who now happens to be my girlfriend that I love. just be open with people.
sorry if I'm no help. I'm not so good at expressing what I'm really trying to say in text. and if you wana like just talk to someone you can always email me k? :) mattromero23@gmail.com



I understand how you feel. I'm a freshman also. I've been struggling with some things also and I've also thought about suicide. What I'm about to tell you is often dismissed as crazy and outdated but I guarantee 100% that if you listen to me you will never regret it and your life will change. It won't be easy but at least try it.
Today in modern society we are very self reliant. We put our trust in money, power, status, etc. However we forget that there is a part of us that is more than physical. It is spiritual. Everyone has a spirit just like everyone has a body. And like our body our spirit has to be fed. Unfortunately we have become so self reliant that we forget about this. A long time ago God created two people, Adam and Eve. Everything was perfect. There were no problems. However God gave them one rule and they broke it. This caused everything to change. This is when mankind was separated from God, who is the only one who can bring meaning to our spiritual lives. Ever since then the world has been full of problems as you and I both know. However, God knew this would happen and he had a plan. Because of the wrong things we do we cannot go to heaven when we die. But about two thousand years ago God sent Jesus Christ to this earth to die for our sins. Jesus was fully God and fully man. He lived a perfect life. And three days after he died Jesus came back to life. In doing this Jesus conquered death. He also made it possible for us to have a relationship with God. God is the source of Joy and happiness and much more. When we are not with God it is only natural for us to see no meaning in life. I'm sure you have alot of questions. Just email me at gen1.1@att.net. I hope to hear from you soon. -Kyle.




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