How to recover FAST from codependency?!

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'I'd rather not go to counseling or help groups and such'. So you want an instant quick fix to 'co dependency' and you don't want to have to do anything , understand if that is what you even have, or otherwise change anything? That doesn't work that way.
You owe it to yourself , child and husband , to understand this , or what ever is going on with you and how to move past it . Otherwise, what you 'fix' yourself with your husband, you will just put off onto your child, who will become entrapped and have no ohter choices but to grow up and try to heal from any damage you cause.
All I can give you is a great form of therapy that doesn't take forever, and some really good learning tools for your child and you so your relationship is healthy and productive.
You should enjoy them , since they are fun and easy as well.
eftmastersworldwide.com eftuniverse.com a free self help version click on 'get started free'.
and so you can understand what your baby is saying from day one, yes, that is possible.
dunstanbabylanguage.com
and after six months yourbabycanread.com
I dont know who said you were 'codependant' but that is not always the right diagnosis, so the therapists above can help you.
How can you 'occupy' yourself without trying to control your bf, is easy. Start focusing on the sites and methods above, and realize you will have little sleep once the baby comes, so learn as much as you can about taking care of the baby, and yourself, and with any time left over, learn to cook well , learn a new skill, learn something you want and like to do ,and just live your life and let him live his life, love and appreciate him as his own person ,andlet him do the same for you.
It is an illusion if you think you can control him, or others, or even your baby. Let people be themselves, and you be yourself. That brings happiness and freedom.
Read Janet Jacksons book 'True You' or something you like.
Be encouraging and uplifting , not controlling. You push people away when you are too controlling.
just a fact.

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