I never want to do anything..help?!
Question: I never want to do anything..help?
Okay but heres the real problem I have, I just put the previous stuff so you can know I cant do what other people can to get out of this cause im weird and maybe theres someone like me out there who has had this issue. I dont want to do anything. Nothing!. I live with my mom and lately she has been telling me that I have to either go to school or get a job and even though she didnt say that shes gonna kick me out, I feel that she will and then I will have to move to san diego cause I will have no where else to go but to the people I know living there like my dad and friends but honestly I hate that city I lived in..theres problems ive had there too like dark clouds but thats a diff story. I went to college last yr and the yr before, I loved it too cause of the learning and I did really great in my classes but I didnt like how i spoke to people cause im always really quite and when people spoke to me half the time I didnt really know how to reply...Im always looking back and thinking about what i said to a person and then worry if they took it the wrong way or something so that might why Im really afraid to talk to people. When i went to school i only took 1 or 2 classes though cause I didnt really like the fact of being elsewhere to much, and id rather be at home on my computer or something. Ive never had a job either. Ive tried many times but after I turned in the applications I wouldnt call in or anything because part of me really didnt want to work and I still dont know why. Im always like that :/ Now my mom has been nagging me and when she does I get really depressed and dont want to do anything even more...I just want to be removed from the world, nothing to do with suicide either, i use to want to kill myself when i was in high school but then I stopped cause I thought about my family and i see other people who lose someone and I would never want to put that pain on my family cause Im the oldest and I cry even thinking about seeing their faces at my funeral..if I was alone and had absolutely no family, i wouldnt even be here right now..the pills or knife wouldve took me already. I want to just dissapear though. I want my bed to swallow me, I want people to still know im there so they wont be sad but know they cant have any expectations of me and I will pretend to be sad but inside I will be really happy cause I dont have to do anything I dont want to ever again, Id also like my laptop to be swallowed too so I can just be stuck in the middle of my bed forever with it. Also another problem I have Is that I never want to eat either but I do cause whenever I start eating less my mom bugs me and starts asking tons of questions about me not eating...and Ive never been a big fan of telling her anything...anyone in that case. About 5 min after I post this Im gonna regret it. I hate letting people know things about me but right now I really want a solution so that I can be like everyone without feeling akward for it. I also have a huge empathy problem too btw.A lot of times when I hear about people I cant help but placing myself in their shoes and I get so sad inside if its something bad, many times I find myself sadder than them for it but i dont show it much, sometimes i do without knowing it ..and then they say its rlly no big deal, but it seems like a big deal to me..is it cause i dont like myself so I can only feel for them?
Theres tons of other problems I have too but Im running out of characters so just tell me whats going on plz
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As others above have said, counselors, goals and self-exploration are all very important into figuring out why you are the way you are. Those are all things that should be considered.
But one question no one has asked of you is what INSPIRES you? Who inspires you? What kind of person do you want to be and why CAN'T you be that person? (I've found that 99% of the time when excuses are swept out of the way, that CAN'T is just an imaginary concept like the square root of negative 1.)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-qMz0Qwyq…
If this helps, it's Sarah's fault..... I'm not saying go out and do an Ironman or train for a marathon. I'm saying you can be whatever you want to be, achieve whatever you want to achieve so long as you ignore the nay sayers and have faith in yourself.
I hope you one day reach out, grab impossible by the throat, look it in the eye and say, "Do you feel lucky, punk?"
If I had a brother or sister with Aspergers I would immediately go out learn how to handle the behavioral disorder and help them get better. Trust me, he's not doing it on purpose.
http://autism.lovetoknow.com/Behavior_Tr…
Ask your parents how you can help.
Working with hearing impaired behaviorally handicapped kids.
probably become socially phobic also you indulge in the act of people pleasing outwardly calm
inwardly very uncomfortable probably low on self esteem and self confidence
do not embrace praise when it is shown. You identify with and empathise when you hear about people and there misfortunes the eating probs are relative to how you feel .
It could go on but i am just going to leave with everything that is happening for you can be
turnaround if you get some cognitive behavioural therapy or buy a cbt technique book
good luck and start today
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Thanks for sharing, it was very interesting and reminded me of myself in some respects. You can accept who you are, a kind person, caring, empathetic, but quite introverted as well. That's fine, many people do not feel compelled to go out and be social animals trying to get everyone to like them etc, I don't that's for sure.
If people don't like you for who you are, then forget about them. Be who you are and say what you feel, because those that mind don't matter, and those that matter don't mind. Just because you want to act in a certain way doesn't mean there's something wrong with you... it's just the way you interact best with the world. It's your life, do what you want with it, live how you want.
That said, if you don't like how you are, you want to go out and do things differently, then you should strive for it. Set goals and really work at changing things to do it differently. Just make sure it's your desire to change and act differently, and you aren't feeling forced to, otherwise it won't work, and make things worse.
Just be free from expectations, and live. That's all.
1st of all, maybe you think people/parents can talk anyway they see fit each day. Turns out many parents are abusers. Actually they are not trying to be tough to make you better or help- they are tricking you. This goes for people at school as well. Words are abuse also.
There are 3 types of abusive people/parents. Some hit the bottle. Some hit you. And some run their mouths and put you down. THEY are sick and feel great on being mean, and thats the only reason they do it. They are wrong about everything. The typical abuser is close-minded, self-righteous and was also abused themself. Use defense and read many sites on verbal abuse etc. People tear you down to build themselves up. Youre being abused - Its their problem. Knowledge is power.
Abuse causes pain mistaken as Mental Problems. BP OCD etc. Psychiatrists commit fraud and all disorders are a hoax. For chemical imbalances NO test exists. You dont have what shrinks say you have. Dont tell anyone about your so called disorder. They will only drug you.
Jesus name and forgiving others who are wrong is important along with avoiding them.
Contact- Child Protective Services- Transitional help to age 21- tell your teacher. Dont tell your parents they wont listen.
Learn the truth, forgive, and Get Away from them. Read many many sites under "emotional abuse" and "dealing with bullies".
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Experience with people feeling better on a repeated basis.
Your issue sounds very gripping in as where the fact that you never want to do "anything" as you say. A young woman such as yourself needs to dig deeper as to why you are experiencing these feelings. Find a local mental health clinic and see if you can find a therapist that can help you sort your issues out so they don't feel so overwhelming. On one hand, you are very fortunate to have a mother that cares about your well being, but on the down side, she may want to investigate a more supporting approach to your needs. If you remain in the condition that you are experiencing now, it will get worse. Please check out help, and make a pact with me that you will never do anything to hurt you ar anyone around you.
Good luck, remember, the journey of a thousand miles starts with the first step. Reaching out on this site says alot about you.