I'm sooo uncomfortable around guys because of my bad past?!
Question: I'm sooo uncomfortable around guys because of my bad past?
I guess I've had bad experiences with boys, when I was younger I was fat and got picked on by boys in school. Especially when I was about age 10 and because of this I also tend to dislike boy kids. But now that I'm good looking and lost all my weight guys try and hit on me and it drives me crazy, I just ignore them.
I feel like I never know what guys are thinking and I always feel paranoid like they are thinking bad things in their head even if they don't say it.
Just put a group of teen boys together with no women around and see how they talk about women, then you will get my point.
My mom thinks I'm a lesbian because of this but I can't control my bad past with men, I rarely know any good men other than my dad and I even act uncomfortable around him!!!
How can I loosen up around men and not act like such a stuck up b*tch and give them a chance?
I don't mean to be like this, it's a bad habit but it's making me come off as really b*tchy.
By the way I'm 19 and never had a boyfriend because of this. I just can't trust guys.
Answers:
It's really hard to trust guys if they have had a negative on your past but you need to remember that it's not all guys who are jerks, just some.
If you let yourself go around guys and just treat them like friends and think of them as friends like you do with your girl friends you will find it a lot easier to relate to them and connect.
There are some guys who are total dbags, but you have to remember that theyre not all like that. Some guys can be wonderful and trustworthy if you just let them in
:)
If you don't want a boyfriend, then why bother? In time, you will know when you want one and who it might be.
And don't worry, women have the upper hand when it comes to love. If you are pretty, you will be able to choose the one right for you among many potential boyfriends.
Bottom line: don't worry, be happy.
Honour yourself, trust yourself, let change happen and understand that you are more than you think - the rest will fall into place.