How to gain self-confidence?!

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Green eyes are beautiful, and in the long run, its better to be freinds with a guy, then have him think youre hot. Well, now i have a confession to make: I do the same thing to my younger sisters. i like to make them feel bad about themselves.... but do you want to know why i do it? and why every older sibling out there does it? because they dont feel confident about themselves. Also, back to your sister..... whats gonna happen when she gets older and she s no longer beautiful? She has learned to attract guys with her beauty, not her personality, like you. In the end, YOU will be the one who everyone will want. So just hang in there :)
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Im 13 too!! yay!! Gonna be 14 on 2/23!!! Looking forward to it hehehe!!

I'm sorry to read that you've been mistreated. This sounds like border line verbal abuse. Your sister sounds conceded, sadistic, and narcissistic. I suspect you may be young, so I will tell you that young people are almost always inconsiderate toward each other, and there's nothing we can do about it. Some of the best advice I ever read on the topic of self esteem was to do volunteer work with the elderly. Older men and women usually understand how to interact the best, assuming they have no mental problems, of course. They like to talk about simple things like the weather, I think because it's not actually important what you talk about, but rather the way you express yourself in the conversation non-verbally. Are you outgoing? Introverted? I was introverted for a long time until I started working with the elderly on an ICU as a USN hospital corpsman. That has changed significantly. When you learn to interact with people in a situation when your looks are of no importance, but rather your intellectual capabilities, you can find confidence in your success. I once prayed to God to ask him what the answer was to my depression, and all the factors that contribute to it. Strangely, a random man approached me two weeks later and explained to me that I simply can't let these things in life get to me. That may not make any sense to you, but it did to me. It helps that I also meditate regularly to keep myself off the edge. Additionally, get in touch with your sense of humor. It will humble and enlighten you. I hope I didn't leave anything out. I wish you well.

You gain self-confidence by accomplishing something. So, to refocus, what do you do that is interesting? What is there you might try to do that might be interesting? Fact: you can't change you outside, so change your inside. You may not be aware, but many ugly people find love. They are loved for who they are, not what they look like. So redirect yourself and your focus. As they say, pretty fades, but stupid is forever. If she gets by on her looks, good luck with that when she's 35. In the meantime, you could become a world reknown cancer researcher and who'd have the last laugh then? You.